Narc DP Bingo Card

[justilou1]

Someone posted the Narc DP Bingo Card recently and I think it would be a very useful tool for my friend who is trying to deal with her narc DH at the moment. We went out for my birthday girl’s night dinner (all three girls in our 40’s) last night and he had a bloody nose which turned into a brain tumor necessitating a trip to A&E, an emergency MRI, a diagnosis of “allergies”, then a shitload of verbal abuse for her for not being interested enough in his “condition” because she didn’t cook him a huge home-cooked meal and bake him and home-made apple pie and have their kids bathed and asleep before 6pm when we were leaving. She didn’t answer his increasingly irate messages about being unable to cope with his own kids for the evening and had to call in his mummy. Twat. If anyone has a copy of it, I’d be so grateful.

I'm not sure it was a card... it was more everyone saying here's what they do. Because they seem to have some kind of instruction manual. Pretty much any of the threads in relationships will point you in the right direction

imgur.com/a/MHmJQcq

There you go

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Thank you!!!

Laughed a bit too hard at: terrible cooking. like why the heck is that in there? Lol. That ones a bit silly. Unless it pertains to them pretending yo bad at something (housework/childminding/cooking) in order to get you to do it (if they are your partner) maybe.

Probably! Ruins the food so you have to do it. Can’t buy the basics so you have to do it. Can’t change the toilet paper, so you have to do it. Giant manbaby stuff.

Mum with NPD here and can confirm she's a terrible cook - is that a thing? Also, a terrible gift giver...

I know one that was a chef so I dont think cant cook is a thing in itself lol.

I think that narc bingo is geared at the 'vulnerable' ('I'm a victim') type of narcissist. Bit too specific in some aspects. Someones based it on one of them rather than in general. Still, some handy points on it.

I googled BPD bingo card and it was magnificently specific for her husband... omg, including the illness chucking

That's terrible if you're making a game out of an illness that 10% of sufferers die from?

People don't have a problem with narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths being bashed but borderline pd is a no-go zone apparently. Even though they are big old cluster b's too. Aww diddums the poor wee 'borderlines xD

I’m from a family of them. If I hadn’t gotten out early and had a crapload of therapy, I’m sure I’d be one too. I’m NC with the lot.

How does one die of narcissism?

People with borderline traits can be arseholes; they can also be loving and generous and in terrible pain from their fears and anxieties. When I think of the people I know with diagnosed BPD, they are far more adept at hurting themselves than others. Also, it seems to me that the condtion is invariably created by a disruptive and traumatic childhood- why do you think they should be vilified like psychopaths, @Bunnymumy?

I think pp meant bpd. Self harm ect is common with borderline personality disorder, as are suicide threats eg: 'if you leave me I'll kill myself (another one for bpd bingo). Plus i think there is something like a 20% chance (I could be out on that though) that if you have bpd you are also bipolar. Which may mean increased extreme and risk taking behaviour during manic states. But then, bipolar IS an illness.

I think there is more sympathy for ppl with borderline pd as they take their destructive behaviour out on themselves too. But tbh I'll save my sympathies for the poor bastards that have to live with them xD

There is argument that npd is created by a traumatic childhood too pp. How strong the support for argument that these personality disorders really come from childhood trauma actually is though,is debatable.

I'd agree it is probably a spectrum. Just as some narcissists are worse than others. All people are different. I just dont think ppl with bpd automatically deserve a free pass when many of their traits are akin to that of their other cluster b bretherin.

Of course- if somebody is behaving like a dick to you, you don't have to take it. But if you have a longstanding friendship, you should be able to be honest with them and talk about it.

Interesting what you say about bipolar being a co-morbidity, btw. That's actually true when I think about it.

Not bipolar, @BitOfFun - Borderline Personality Disorder. It’s in the same family as Narcs, etc.

No, I know. I was just responding to BunnyMumy's mention of BPD sufferers sometimes having bi-polar associated with it.

Sorry... I missed that one. Couldn’t agree more with Bunny, btw.