I am divorced. Teen dc live with me, see their dad but no overnights. Their choice.
Ex is very Jekyll and Hyde and you never know where you stand with him. I was constantly treading eggshells when married. It was very difficult to divorce him as he told me he would make it as hard as possible and he did. However he does not understand why I divorced him and probably never will.
Friends who are divorced tell me I co parent properly. As a general rule he does not co parent well, very inconsistent and emotionally abusive. And will not commit to which days and times until the last minute. Meaning I cant plan anything.
Also still expects me to do his family admin. Was shocked this week when I suggested that he needed to take responsibility for it himself. It is not up to me to set up the kids homework app on his pc for example. He has access to the app after all. Nor is it my job to buy his family (who have cut me out their lives 100%), birthday gifts from him!
Now he is telling me I am not a single parent and never will be and if I try and be he will stop maintenence. 🙄
I feel I will never be free from
him. The more I stick up for myself the worse and more manipulative and emotionally abusive he is.