Tell me how a long term relationship should be?

[Crumpets4butter]

I'm not a journo at all, I just wanted to know what other people relationships are like once the shine has come off and you have kids?

Been together 8 years, 2.5 year old DD. Lots of arguements lately where horrible things have been said on both sides, he fell out with my family (my brother has a drug addiction) but I'm expected to bow down to his. Also I'm expected to do all the housework and he gives me little jobs to do which I do to keep the peace. Arguements don't happen as much when I cook well and clean so I am trying to do more. We are in separate beds and have sex about once a month, it's ok. He can be kind but has a nasty evil streak. I think he finds me attractive and still loves me, I think he is attractive but the love has vanished. He can be fun and is a good provider and earns good money. I'm not at all happy but I wonder if this is just real life now?

OP you're a grown woman, why are you allowing yourself to be treated like this? He's not your manager, he's your partner. He doesn't get to give you 'little jobs' and he does his fair share around the house and with the children.

He's an arsehole who doesn't respect you. If you stay with him your DC will think this is how relationships are.

All relationships grow and mature differently, but yours is vile and unkind. Get rid.