I’m in a relationship that I know will have to end soon but I just wanted to vent a little because I’m starting to realise it’s NOT in my head and my partner is in fact manipulative. I’ve been with my partner since late last year. I’m 30, he’s 35. Not a huge amount of time but I fell for him quickly, we’ve spent a lot of time together and share many similar interests. When we’re together it’s great, we like doing the same things and we get along very well. When we argue it’s bad, it’s no in between. He’s been abroad for 2 months as he’s originally from elsewhere and he’s seeing family and sorting work because of the Covid-19 Situation so we’ve been apart in that time but in daily communication via FaceTime and communication about when he’s back home etc. This period is where the relationship fell apart but now looking back the signs were there. The first big red flag was that he had children with his ex and didn’t tell me. I found out by overhearing him on the phone. When I told him it’s an utterly ridiculous thing to keep from someone and how mad and hurt I was, his reasons were that I’d mentioned I didn’t ideally want a partner with children and he was scared to initially tell me and it go out of hand. I have no children and ideally wanted a partner in the same boat, but it wasn’t a dealbreaker. I just wish I knew. I said that is selfish and childish. I forgave him because he was genuinely sorry but it made me think so why else is he lying about? Then in the first couple of weeks of him being gone I found out he had logged into a dating app ‘out of curiosity’ and boredom and caught him leaving inappropriate comments on someone’s Instagram. He told me I shouldn’t be snooping and respect his privacy and initially was angry at ME because it’s my fault I found out. Ridiculous. He apologised and said it will never happen again but I don’t trust him. When we argue about this (baring in mind he’s still abroad so it’s even more difficult as we haven’t addressed it face to face) he gets mad at ME for always being it up. A couple of times he’s blocked me because ‘it’s the only way he can get through’ to me and to stop talking about what he did. He tells me to ‘get over it’. He gets mad at me for asking is there anyone else he’s talking to or is he being good. He is short tempered when dealing with me asking about this - I’ve told him right now I can’t trust him and he needs to understand that. Just because we’ve spoken about issues doesn’t mean they are resolved. He’s short tempered and only a few hours ago we argued over something stupid and he lost his temper. Called me a silly bitch and I’m dumb and his daughter has more common sense. I said good for her, hopefully she will have enough common sense to not put up with a man speaking to her like you are to me. This isn’t the first time he’s called me a bitch or a cunt etc. I can admit I retaliate and speak back but I would NEVER start a fight over something so silly and react how he does. He is an only child and has trauma from childhood but it’s NOT an excuse to treat women like this (issues with his mother an abandonment). I too have issues from my childhood but would never dream of being like this to someone. If anything it makes me want to be a great partner because I’ve seen the effects of abandonment and cheating and broken families. I’ve tried to leave once over an emotional conversation on FaceTime last week. He apologised and said he knows he’s been shit but he’s got problems and while he’s had therapy before, he needs more. I agreeed to support him but deep down I know this relationship is doomed. It’s just so much harder now because of the distance. Ideally I don’t want to end a relationship over FaceTime, I want to speak in person and get everything off my chest properly. I’m not looking for advice, I just wanted to get it off my chest without any judgement and see if anyone else has been in the same boat? Thank you x