New relationship and first sleepover

[WonderingMumma]

I’ve been seeing a new man, all is going really well so far. He has invited me to stay the night on Friday, and I’m nervous. The last time I was with someone, nearly a year ago, there was a bit of an unfortunate incident with some bleeding during sex. I had it checked out and it was put down to the coil I’d had fitted about 2 months previously.

The problem is I just can’t get the thought that the same thing will happen again out of my head. I just want to relax and enjoy it but that’s easier said than done! I’m only a couple of days past the end of my period so that’s not helping the worry either!

It's easier said than done but try not to worry. Did your previous partner make a fuss about this, is that why you are anxious about it happening again?
I think if you felt able to maybe you could mention that this has happened before just so it's out there, that way if it does happen it won't be a shock. Maybe you can then relax more.
Plus you will naturally feel a bit nervous anyway first time with a new partner.
I bet he will have his own anxieties too and if you are open he might feel more comfortable to be open with you.
Good luck!

So what if you do?

Men know that women get periods and there’s always a risk of blood as they can start whenever (I know that wasn’t why you had bleeding but doesn’t change the above fact). And frankly a guy who doesn’t realise that and has never managed to educate himself on basic biology isn’t sounding like a catch!

I don’t expect a guy to be into it (though most don’t mind at all in my experience and many are actually into it) but if a man had a negative response to some blood that would be really off putting to me and immature. By all means stop if it’s a turn off but any shitty response would come across pretty childish and unattractive.

TMI but on one of our first encounters it was dark and DH didn’t actually notice until he was walking home he had blood under his fingernails lol. Neither of us had realised (mine was bleeding from my cervix being irritated) in the moment. Did he care? No, he thought it was funny and it didn’t put him off at all.

Loosen up, be confident (or act it) so you can relax and enjoy it. Vaginas bleed sometimes, it’s fine and normal.

None of my exes minded blood. I wouldn't worry, relax and enjoy it.

Relax and enjoy! Women bleed.

My only other comment is that I prefer with someone new to have sex and then go home to sleep. I hate the bathroom thing the next day. I always worry about the uncontrolled fart while sitting on the pot!

Why don't you suggest yours as the venue ? In that way you are in charge of towels, sheets etc .