Ex's girlfriend is pregnant

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My ex has told me that his girlfriend is pregnant and I don't think I should be taking it this hard but I am. They've been together for about a years and got together only a few months after we separated, that was difficult too. We'd been together since we were 17 and have 3 children together, our relationship had become terrible and I knew it was for the best but I'd never really been without him, all my life as an adult he'd been there and I had to learn to cope on my own. It's been hard but I've managed and it's gotten easier, now finding this out I feel like I'm back where I started, I'm jealous to be honest, to see him have what we once had with somebody else isn't easy. He seems to be moving on like all those years never happened

It will get easier. It’s so hard though and I really feel for you. Just do what you can to look after you, and remember why you broke up. You’re looking at their relationship with rose tinted glasses, imagining the best moments you had with tiny children, not the worst moments. Lay in bed tonight, stretch and feel the sheets and think of all those years of sleepless nights he’s due. Also- they’ve only been together a year and are having a baby? That’s going to throw so much at their relationship. I’m glad it’s not you in that position for you! Do what you can to look after yourself, be kind to yourself and it will pass. It’ll be harder and then easier xxx

She's foolish having a child by someone she's been with for a year, risky.

Your relationship became terrible, why?

Eventually you just don't care anymore - faster than the original betrayal. Eventually you'll think of them and their child and feel nothing (except pity for the child).

In time, you'll feel sorry for her. He'll treat her exactly the same way - especially now she's stuck.

These guys never change. You're the lucky one.

💐💐💐

It's so hard and nothing makes it easier but time passing. I thought it would never get easier but it did. It honestly will get easier for you. It just takes a while. Be kind to yourself and take pride that you're coming through this. You'll come out the other side better and stronger and happier than before.

Thank you, I'm definitely looking at our relationship through rose tinted glasses. Our relationship stopped working because well he was stubborn, he always has been but we started arguing more often and he was never willing to apologise or talk it over, he'd ignore me instead. That's not to say I was perfect either but that did make things very difficult between us and once I gave up on being the one to try and make amends we drifted apart completely and he also blamed that on me. Now that I'm reminding myself of that I'm glad we're not together anymore, I'm sure why but I do forget about the bad parts easily and often think about how it could have been different

Hi OP so sorry your feeling this way! I can imagine how hard that would be, I’ve recently split with my partner who I met quite young and have spent a lot of years with and it’s so hard.

It will get easier, I know it’s horrible thinking that they’re having that bond you two HAD but remember OP it didn’t work out for you and chances are he’ll show his true colours to her too! X