DH and don't have the best relationship at the moment. But I am finding his avoidant personality impossible to live with.
He won't talk finances, reduce outgoings or tighten his belt either. Just buries his head in the sand. We should have been getting married ( I call him 'DH' for the sake of ease on MN) but we haven't set a date and he won't discuss that either as we clearly won't be getting married due to not getting along over the last 12 months.
But more than anything, it's his attitude to sex and contraception. I've tried every contraceptive going now and had problems with all of them, more recently having to have a procedure to have my missing mirena coil rescued from my uterus. We have 2 DCs and an unhappy relationship, he says he doesn't want more children, I don't want any more children (with him) but he refuses to have the snip as its "too permanent." I understand, but also have read that it can be reversed. I have since suggested condoms, but he requires a larger size, which he used to order over the Internet prior to children. He hasn't ordered any in 3 months and keeps saying he will but doesn't. We have had sex twice since the coil removal and he pulled out both times. I say this is far too risky. He says "it's perfectly safe. Don't worry about it."
He's just avoiding buying condoms, going for the snip, sorting finances, or even just planning for the future. He seems to just float from one day to the next avoiding anything that makes him remotely uncomfortable. I can't bear his come-day go-day attitude. But, I'm finding that during ovulation, my desire for sex it at it's peak. I really don't want another baby with him right now.
If things are still tense a year from now, I will leave him, but how do I cope with his avoidant personality until then? (I have to wait a year for reasons I can't elaborate on on this post).