I can’t afford to leave DH

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I’m in a sexless marriage with a man I can barely co-parent with but realistically I can’t afford to leave. I don’t know how to proceed. Pragmatically the best thing would be to continue co-existing until my career is back on track from having 2 mat leaves close together and having had surprise twins.

But is this awful? I don’t know.

I earn £35k full time. Nursery is £1250/month (30hr funding for 3yo, FT for twins). Equity in our house all came from sale of previous house which was H’s. I paid for moving costs ~£10k and new flooring, curtains and furniture ~£6k.

I’m fucked.

Can I also say don’t be obsessed with having to buy another house either, if you can get some equity and aren’t in a position to buy him out or take over the mortgage , then it’s fine to sell up and rent somewhere suitable rather than be in an unpleasant situation. When he is back in work he would be paying maintenance too more likely than not.