Relationship help (porn mentioned)

[skyeangel]

I am new on here but I seriously could do with some help. Almost 2 years ago I found out that my DH had used Skype to talk to a woman in another country. I read all the history and they only chatted twice but had virtual sex with each other.

The marriage nearly ended but I forgave him as long as he promised to tell me everything in future. A couple of months later I walked in on him using porn he had down loaded more the once. It is not the porn that bothered me but the fact he did it behind my back and tried to hide it from me.

We have slowly rebuilt everything until this week when I have seen more porn sites in his laptop history (I had borrowed his laptop and was looking through the history for a site I had visited the week before.). He is denying it all this time and saying it is not him. He does not know how they got there etc.. I hate all the lies. The thing is I have no problem with porn use I just hate lying. So I just needed to get this out of my system and get some sort of relief from off loading to someone. Any replies would be appreciat4d.

He has been on the phone crying to my mum , he is actually asking for me to go to relate with him so we shall have to see. I love him but do not respect him you know. Plus we have 3 kids and I am really worried how all this will effect them.

Just wanted to say I totally understand where you are coming from on this hun!

I was with a guy for three years, cheated on me after 9months (yes I often wonder why I gave him another chance!)and we agreed that EVERYTHING was to be out in the open to re-build the trust. It only took a small lie for me to become upset, I guess it was because I wanted the relationship to work so much.

He used porn (I didn't have a problem with it either) I just wasn't sure how deep in to it he was ie chat rooms, cyber sex, emails etc. That was my issue.

In the end I learned that he would always use porn (even after swearing on his kids lives he had thrown it all away/deleted it etc)always lie and could never be trusted!

Good luck in your decision, just wanted to let you know that your not alone in your views

Thank you for that. I think everyone thinks I am over reacting but once the trust is gone I do not see what else there is. How many times do you have to forgive a lie being told before you feel like a gullible doormat.

Will he ever change and realise how much lying hurts relationships if I keep forgiving ever lie I find out. Why change when I forgive him every time.