She insists to keep me as a friend?

[MrCKF]

Long story short, there was a girl I went out with a few days ago. It was our first date, she was very affectionate, she hugged my arm and leaned on my body while we were walking at the street. She even paid for the hotel for us to stay for a night, she even gave me her first no condom sex.

But next day, before I left we had a long talk. She said she really like me, but there is something on me she doesn't like as much, which it makes her struggle if she wants to be with me or not. Meanwhile she is busy with her research as a PhD student, she has literally no time to do other stuff she even gives up her workout.

So she insists on keeping me as a friend. She emphasized she really cherished me and she felt really lucky to meet me, but she is now really not in the mood for relationship and she has no time to know more about me. That night, despite the fact that she needed to meet her supervisor in the next early morning, she still stayed on the call with me for 6hrs during midnight in order to sort out this matter.

So whats going on in her mind?

“I might be making a big assumption here, but i'm guessing that the condom free sex wasn't your first time else you'd have mentioned it. Was it her idea to do it, or did you bring it up?”

Good point. If this is the case, it’s a very good reason to not want to see you again.

good job she paid for the hotel room - sex was all she wanted from you.

@iamtheoneandonlyyy

Her first no condom sex? Great idea

Classy.

she even gave me her first no condom sex
Really?
And you just 'took' it?

You'd best get yourself down the clap clinic and get yourself checked out!
Condoms are meant to protect BOTH people from STD's.....don't be surprised if she contacts you for child maintenance at some point cos she 'accidentally' got pregnant!

Wasn't her first no condom sex. You've been had in more ways than one. Get yourself checked out and hope she didn't get pregnant. Don't be so bloody foolish in future.

She wants a baby daddy. Go get a STD check and don’t be so naive in future.

Start saving now for when the child maintenance letter arrives.

Oh dear, no condom = STD or a baby 9 months down the line. I think you've been had.

first no condom sex
And you took it? Oops, she got you on that. Go and get yourself checked and make sure you do a dna test in 9 months time before paying maintenance. Good luck.

Why would you have sex without a condom with some woman you only just met? Do you want to be a dad or contract an std? Wow.

She wanted a shag.Thats it. I'm not really sure what you are expecting us to say? "you are betrothed to be married now"?

Also, get checked for STDs, she could be riddled with them for all you know.

Condomless first date sex, PhD study and a woman who pays for the hotel...whatever happened to a bag of chips and smog in the bus shelter, things are certainly different these days, except “unexpected” babies and unwanted STDs!

Let's hope you haven't become an inadvertent sperm donor.

UpCountryBagLady
Kinda has a whiff of toxic masculinity doesn't it?
That's how it feels to me....that some women, in the pursuit of 'equality' decided to do exactly as some men do......they think they're being empowered by being 'free' to do the same, not realising that actually they're just taking on and projecting a toxic masculine 'energy'.

If she's used a condom, my opinion actually would have beeen more "good on ya - why not? unlike men you're not paying a sex worker and using massage parlours....hotel is safer than taking them to your home.."
However, the no condom use gives me the feeling she's trying to trick a man into giving her a baby....and then will be after his money to pay for a kid he won't even be allowed to be a dad to if he wanted.

You could now be paying child maintenance for the next eighteen years. What were you thinking? You talk about it like she gave you some sort of prize. Total madness to not use a condom, unless you're desperate to get an STI or pay for a child you'll probably never get to see.

If she isn't pregnant count yourself lucky and don't do it again.

Expect a phone call in 9 months “Daddy”.... 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

Her first no-condom sex?!

Christ! Are you saying that like it’s a positive sign that she really liked you?!

she even gave me her first no condom sex.

#greatlifechoices
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It definitely wasn't her first no condom sex. Sorry.

Before you even think about coming to the conclusion that you were 'tricked' into getting a woman pregnant, OP, please always remember that just because she suggested sex without a condom, you were foolish to go along with it. You're both just as bad as each other.

@Jaxhog

Let's hope you haven't become an inadvertent sperm donor.

Absolutely no part of this man's actions were inadvertent. He knew exactly what he was doing and happily went along with it. He said 'she gave it', he didn't even say 'she offered it'. Part of me is wondering if the thing about him that she doesn't like is his insistence to only do things the way he wants. Hopefully she left, got a morning after pill and has blocked him.

@MrCKF so what do you think?