Son broke up with girlfriend

[Aquamarine1029]

My son, 23, has just ended things with his girlfriend, 27, and the poor chap is heartbroken. They had been together for 11 months and were such a lovely couple, but over the past month or so, she has decided she never wants children. Of course, this is a perfectly reasonable decision to make, however my son definitely does want children in the future, so he decided the best thing to do was go their separate ways now. His girlfriend doesn't want this at all, but I agree with my son. She is such a lovely young lady and I'm very sad for both of them. It's so hard to see your children hurting, no matter how old they are.

Aww that is so sad. A relative of mine ended a relationship as one wanted children and the other adamantly didn’t. They got back together for a while but still had the same issues. Eventually they broke up for good. The one that wanted children met someone else within the year and now has 4 children!

What a mature and difficult decision he’s made. It would have been easy for him to carry on, hoping she might change her mind, but instead he’s chosen to be honest with himself and with her and to avoid causing them both more pain further down the line. Of course, he may still change his mind and go back to her. Great that he has you to support him, regardless. He sounds like a very thoughtful young man.

It is heart-breaking watching your kids hurt.
It won't last for ever and he will meet someone else even more lovely.
Hugs for you all.

It is sad, and I feel for him because it's so hard to meet someone that ticks all/most of your boxes. The having children issue is something you just can't compromise on when you're on totally different sides of the fence.

I'm just going through similar as DS, 24, has just split up with his girlfriend. She ended things after a year and he's devastated. I'm supporting him as much as I can but it's so hard seeing your child go through heartbreak and not being able to fix it for them

@DramaAlpaca

I'm sorry about your son's heartbreak. It's awful, isn't it? As a mum you want to be supportive, but we also can't interfere, especially when they are adults. It's a tricky thing to navigate sometimes.

I was the one who’s ex didn’t want kids, or marriage. I ended it as a result and like your son, was devastated.

I can’t tell you just how happy I am I ended it now. It sucked for a while but I’d have been more miserable giving up my fertility and chance to be a mother by staying with him.

Your son will understand one day that he has made the right decision and he won’t regret it. He’ll thank his young self.