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Found blocked and deleted text on partner phone.

7 replies

SomethingStrangeIsGoingOn · 09/07/2020 18:12

Now I cant say I am shocked as I have always felt like he was cheating but had no proof...

I need more proof because I no when I confront him he will spin me a bag of lies now do I call the other women, text use a different number. How do I go about it?
Thanks

OP posts:
MushyPeasAreTheDevilsFood · 09/07/2020 18:12

If you know he is cheating, And you know he is a liar, why does it matter? Just leave.

LovingLola · 09/07/2020 18:13

Assume he has cheated
Don’t bother contacting her
Dump him

SHICKING21 · 09/07/2020 18:13

Just tell him you know. Wait and see how he reacts. Then tell him to fuck off. Then find someone who treats you properly and respectfully.

waitingforthestan · 09/07/2020 19:16

it does matter to have proof because down the line when we feel low or miss them and doubt the choice to leave we remember what they actually did.

Ridiculous bloody response @MushyPeasAreTheDevilsFood I swear people like you believe your so smart with comments like that. Humans aren't ROBOT!

waitingforthestan · 09/07/2020 19:24

Op you need to have screenshots on your phone to use as a reference, in case he gets rid of them completely.

You can simple text them and ask if they know your dp, I did this - a few were really nice about it, the others said they didn't know him, which later turned out that was because they were using a site to cheat on partners.

Save numbers in your phone and check WhatsApp, Snapchat, Houseparty which can actually give you their name and a picture of them, so you can find them on fb.

Sounds a lot, but this all helped me understand the type of cheating my ex did, mainly sexting and FaceTime.
And people will say just leave but this was the df of my dc and his behaviour and pattern of cheating wasn't a one off that therapy could help with it is ingrained in him.

You could text them from a new number, just saying Hi I've got a new number, issue with that is, he could of used a fake name.
You will have to make sure you change your WhatsApp picture to.

justanotherone123 · 09/07/2020 19:27

I would call the numbers and then you'll be able to ask what's been going on. Tell them you are the wife/partner and most will tell you the truth.

Whereisthelaughter · 10/07/2020 07:46

Did the texts reveal enough to be proof within themselves?

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