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Texting - am I being too paranoid?

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Tigerqueen01 · 09/07/2020 16:28

I’ve been with my partner a year. We had a very intense (whirlwind beginning) and it was great. He’d message me all the time, good morning texts, and throughout the day to let me know he was thinking of me. He has always been a quick texter (we use WhatsApp). Now after a little bit of a rocky patch, arguments etc even though we are totally back on track like nothing has ever happened he waits until around lunchtime to message me or if I text him he’ll take a good couple of hours to respond. I know this sounds petty but this isn’t how we’ve communicated before. I don’t by any means expect an instant reply as we both have lives. But I know he’s read it and then replies later, sometimes he’ll be on WhatsApp and reply to other people and then wait and respond to me later. I guess it makes me feel like he isn’t as interested, or perhaps he just takes me for granted. I know you people of Mumsnet don’t mince your words so please tell me what you think? When we’re together he’s always checking his phone but never hides it from me, he’ll read them out or if it’s a joke from a friend he’ll show me so there is nothing funny going on before people start trying to convince me there is!

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butterpuffed · 09/07/2020 16:43

How do you know he's replying to others before he replies to you ? When it says 'last seen at....' it just mean's he's been in WhatApp.

Crazychild · 09/07/2020 17:55

If I was really into someone, I wouldn’t wait 2hrs to reply to them unless I was driving.

Very rare you see someone under the age of 50 without their phone glued to their side.

Crystalspider · 09/07/2020 18:03

Apart from messaging through, is he making an effort and seems keen to see you? maybe a bit of both, he's settled with you so doesn't need to impress you by responding quickly or he is lacking interest but I would think there would be an overall lack of effort in the relationship if that is true.

RLEOM · 09/07/2020 22:01

Hmmm... I'd think that he wasn't that into me. Or interested in someone else. Definitely not his top priority, sorry.

Kimboslice2203 · 10/07/2020 23:31

I guarantee it’s just your both happy and he has you now! Men always over compensate in the first stages!
I don’t know one of my friends who haven’t thought the same thing... I wouldn’t think too much into it being your both happy and settled :)

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