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Should I go?

21 replies

Claire926 · 09/07/2020 12:23

Before lockdown I went on a walk with a walking group and there was a man there who I have known for a while. We get on well and there is chemistry. During lockdown we have been coincidentally joining the same hobbies groups on Facebook.

Today, he has listed a walk that he will leading for this weekend whilst keeping the numbers to 6 including him. I really want to go as I want to get to know him but I feel anxious about the virus as I have not met up with anyone during all of this. One friend said not to worry and to follow social distancing and that transmission is low outdoors. Should I go? I don't want to have any 'what ifs'.

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hellsbellsmelons · 09/07/2020 13:26

If you are really worried then don't go.
But do listen to your friend.
As long as you SD you will be fine!
Wear a mask if you think that will help.
Enjoy the walk.

litterbird · 09/07/2020 13:35

it would be good to get out in the fresh air. Be mindful, wear a mask and keep to a social distance. As long as you don't end up snogging him you will be fine!!!

PornStarOvaltini · 09/07/2020 13:42

Context is important here OP. What age are you? Any health issues? How will you get to the start point?

lifestooshort123 · 09/07/2020 13:56

Go. Use common sense. Enjoy!

hustler2020 · 09/07/2020 14:02

go for sure lifes too short

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Claire926 · 09/07/2020 14:18

@PornStarOvaltini

Context is important here OP. What age are you? Any health issues? How will you get to the start point?
I am in my 30s with no health issues. I would drive on my own to the walk and would not have anyone in my car.
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PornStarOvaltini · 10/07/2020 09:38

Go then OP. It could be the start of something wonderful...if not, no biggy. Nothing to lose.

Let us know! Wink

AttilaTheMeerkat · 10/07/2020 09:43

Go on this walk. The fresh air will do you good too. No need to wear a mask in the countryside, just use common sense and maintain social distance of a meter.

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Claire926 · 10/07/2020 21:45

Thanks for all your advice, I will follow the guidelines. I have packed all of my things ready. :)

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Claire926 · 11/07/2020 17:41

Today I went on the walk and we briefly spoke but not much. I think the ‘shyness’ is getting in our way from both of us. He seemed down and it was clear the way he was talking that living alone has affected him in lockdown.

I got a bit fed up as the others just kept talking about the virus. A few times at the end of the walk he said to keep an eye out for his next walk and he will be putting on more which he looked at me when he said it.

Hopefully that means we will see each other again and I hope next time he will be happier. Before lockdown he was happy and having a laugh with me. I feel like crying as I don’t want him to be sad or I feel sad. 😢

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Justcallmebebes · 11/07/2020 18:09

If you both live alone can you not suggest a meet up and drink in the garden?

SettingUp792 · 11/07/2020 18:14

Oh that makes me feel sad too. Do you think you could start reaching out to him more in respect of him feeling lonely? Suggest an online game or something.... Chess or Scrabble? And be the first to sign up to his next walk! Start coming across a bit keener.

MikeUniformMike · 11/07/2020 20:07

He is feeling lonely or it was a big hint that he'd like your company.
Give it a day or two and send a friendly message. Say you enjoyed the walk and are just checking he's not feeling too lonely.

DoWahDiddy · 11/07/2020 21:43

OP, you seem like a kind and considerate woman. There are many who have suffered a mental wobble during lockdown. Stick with it. We are all coming out of hibernation.

SoulofanAggron · 11/07/2020 21:54

Do you tend to suffer from depression/anxiety? Perhaps you could see your GP/consultant, or go back again so they can try something else?

I'm sure your friend is ok really. Could you chat to him via messenger or video to get to know him better?

Outdoors socially distanced is fine BTW.

DamnShesaSexyChick · 11/07/2020 21:57

I think it does sound as though he likes you, it’s difficult if you’re both shy but definitely go on the next walk.

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Claire926 · 12/07/2020 10:20

I feel like crying as since yesterday he reactivated his dating profile on POF and I think by not speaking to him much on the walk he thinks I am not interested.

I don't know if dating is worth the hassle right now with what's going on.

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sonjadog · 12/07/2020 10:55

Now you know he has been feeling down and lovely in lockdown, why not send him a message and ask if he would like to meet up for a coffee? As a friendly gesture, and then as you can hat and get to know each other a bit better.

DoWahDiddy · 12/07/2020 13:44

@sonjadog

Now you know he has been feeling down and lovely in lockdown, why not send him a message and ask if he would like to meet up for a coffee? As a friendly gesture, and then as you can hat and get to know each other a bit better.
There's your 'in'. Get an account on POF and get in touch with him. It will make it clear that you're both single and available. Go for a walk, just you and him.
DoWahDiddy · 12/07/2020 14:00

^ sorry, quoted the wrong post!

hustler2020 · 13/07/2020 17:08

why don't do research on walks in your area pick one and invite him . if you're too shy text him friendly simple text

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