Zero libido/scared of sex 14 months after having baby

[MrsCremuel]

I used to have a high sex drive....not anymore! Never think about sex, just don't feel like a sexual being anymore.

When I do take time to think about it more deeply it's a mix of things - I am still breastfeeding and now see my body differently. It's like it belongs to my baby, what with the labour and bfing, it actually feels wrong to engage in sex which is weird!

Also scared - the times we have tried, which is only twice, it's hurt and we have had to stop. I had an episiotomy and forceps which I found hard to recover from. Just getting over the 'urgency' issue, thankfully.

Husband has never has a high sex drive which used to be a fruatration and is now a blessing as he is very understanding. But I want to get back on track and feel like more than a mum and more like me. And more like a wife and less of a friend!

Any tips or experiences?

If you want to get back on track, then lube is your best friend.

Oceans of it, in fact.

And if you don't want him to touch your boobs, just say it first.

The good news is that for me (fucked up episiotomy which I had to get sorted first) after the first couple of times it started to feel pretty natural again.

But I'm not kidding about the lube.