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Agent provocateur

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Brainengaged1 · 08/07/2020 23:43

Today I found receipts for his latest purchase on agent provocateur .

Why I am so annoyed that I found receipts for undies , while I’m going through a divorce. I also found other stuff as well

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blisstwins · 09/07/2020 06:40

because it is expensive, cliche, and the creep could not wait until you were disentangled before doing this stuff? Marriage is a big deal and you should never have been in a position to see those receipts. It shows a basic lack of respect. So the hell with him and onto better things.
This feeling is finite.

ErickBroch · 09/07/2020 08:55

Yeah I would feel super shitty about that too, sorry OP.

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Brainengaged1 · 10/07/2020 02:28

I hat

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User533633 · 10/07/2020 02:31

I'm sorry OP, that sounds hard. I would've felt sick at that.

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Brainengaged1 · 10/07/2020 02:34

I can’t find the words to describe how angry I am with his insensitivity . He still smiles in my face and pretends like nothing has happened. We are living apart now but obs he is in full throttle despite Covid . I can’t believe I was married to this man for 25 years and never suspected a thing . He has become a different man. We have a child so we operate on a purely transactional basis .

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User533633 · 10/07/2020 02:41

My husband cheated, it's awful. I still feel sick to my stomach thinking of it. I'm so sorry , they are awful. Yours is sitting protected by his cloud of other woman and agent provocateur and it's not fair. It's just never going to be fair . My husband lied so much he doesn't even know what the truth is. I'm sitting drinking at this time in a Friday morning just to get a few hours sleep.

sergeilavrov · 10/07/2020 03:58

Try and contextualise them as something he wears himself. Hopefully that gives you a good laugh, you absolutely deserve it. So insensitive to leave that for you to find.

blisstwins · 10/07/2020 04:01

I went through something very similar and one of the hardest things is wondering if they changed or if you ever actually knew them. I do feel that except for having my children, 20 years of my life was stolen. But you did right and were there and cannot dwell on him. This is his loss and ultimately to your benefit. Can you imagine choosing a man like this? Who would let his wife of 25 years find a receipt like that? What an ass...and cliche. SO BORING. Yawn. Move on. Truly, do not give him headspace (easier said than done). This is not the man for you.

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Brainengaged1 · 10/07/2020 05:47

I know , he is so smug . I also found out he had got a testing kit which he left in a drawer . Think it’s for Std for a send away clinic ! Also found cheap costume jewellery/ looks life belly dancing gear . Blood hell !

we are not intimate

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blisstwins · 10/07/2020 06:52

how old is he? Idiot. Try to laugh. You are onto better things.

sofato5miles · 10/07/2020 07:03

Did you onow about this before? Amd why hasn't he taken his own stuff, the selfish git

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Brainengaged1 · 10/07/2020 11:32

Long story , but he’s decamping in a property we are doing up , so I’m clearing out my stuff and came across the Dress up draw ! Thank you for making me laugh . I’m going through a whole range of emotions at the moment . Mostly disgust

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Crystalspider · 10/07/2020 11:37

Put on your brave face, empty into a black bin bag for his collection.

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