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Is it me?

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clock87 · 07/07/2020 22:37

I know i keep posting but sometimes posting on here helps me with some clarity

As per my last post, i have been ghosted (again), I can’t help but feel is it me? the last people ive been out with they just seem to go or find someone new and better

i know its part of dating, but since i haven’t had a series of long term relationships i wonder if I am someone people struggle to love?

I've tried to build my confidence over the last few years, generally i love a good laugh, documentaries, films and socialising

I dunno im finding myself as easily dumpable? there’s always someone better :(

I find guys i have been out with are quick to criticise me

did anyone have this background and manage to find someone in the end? Everytime a guy dumps me I feel like they are winning off to find a better more normal prize

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waitingforthestan · 07/07/2020 22:41

Wankers!!! You find wankers are easily dumping you not good men.

And it's not just you, I was with my exdp for years and he thought it was a good thing to sext and cheat even though we had a very good ( great actually) life.

It's so easy for people to block, men did it years ago where they would disappear and then come back with an excuse. They can just do it easier now.

You will either find someone soon or your have to get through this arse holes until your find a good man.

CardsforKittens · 07/07/2020 22:48

I find guys i have been out with are quick to criticise me

That should be the point where you dump them! Quick to criticise is not a feature I look for in a partner.

Do you never do the dumping? Are you always the dumpee? If so, you might need to do some more work on your confidence and self-worth.

Also, if people ghost you instead of telling you it’s not working for them, then you’re better off without them. I’d rather have a relationship with someone who’s mature enough to communicate directly.

Don’t give up! There are some decent people out there, but it takes a bit of time to find one.

PumpkinP · 08/07/2020 00:29

Ghosting is common these days. It’s what people do when they don’t want to have the talk about it being over so take the cowards way out.

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