My husband and I have a 3.5 year old and 6 week old. I'm on mat leave my husband works full time. He always sees his friends on a Weds night. I started to get jealous of this and resent it. I absolutely want him to have a healthy social life and realised I resent it because I don't have designated child free time. So last week we agreed that Tuesdays would be my child free night.
So here I am hiding in our bedroom trying to make the most of my child free time but I feel guilty about it, typical mum guilt really. But also and probably more so I feel bad on my husband....not really sure why. I am sure he doesn't feel bad when he goes out on his night!!
I think I'm feeling bad about it because previously I'd only have child free time if I had something planned. Like see friends or have errands to do. But I still think its important for me to have this time, I just need my feelings to catch up. Hopefully this will be enjoyable rather than me just feeling bad about it.
Does anyone else have a set up like this? Maybe I have just been petty about wanting a regular child free night.
(I'll report this to be moved to relationships)