Firstly, I have changed my name as I do not want to be recognised by anyone who knows me and my family. I do not like to discuss these type of things, but I could do with some advice.
I have not always got on well with my family. My mum and I tend to get on, but there are a lot of arguements between the two of us. The past few days have been a prime example. I went to the doctors about a month ago, and I was told that I have the first signs of depression again. I was given help, and at the moment, I am feeling myself and have not been suffering so much as I had been. However, the one thing that gets me down is my mum. Everytime I see her, I tend to go into a bad mood. She talks down to me as if I am stupid. She asks things like "have you given her lunch?" "why is in the same clothes as yesterday?"
I have different methods to how I want to bring up my child to how my mum brought me up. I do not mind advice that can actually benefit me, but comments like the above really bug me. I do not let on, but it really does my head in! She commented today about my doctor's appointment that I had and said that I was suppose to go back around this time (they wanted me back a month later just to check on progress) and she said that she thinks I ought to go back as she thinks I am worse than I was back then. She can also see the difference in my dd from when dd is with her to when dd is with me. In other words, dd is always "happy" when she's with my mum, but always "upset" when she is with me. But actually today I spent most of the time singing nursery rhymes and dancing with dd. And dd was in a great mood all day until my mum arrived and then dd threw a tantrum. I just do not think this is the appropriate thing to be saying to me, her own daughter. If I was really doing a crap job as a mum, then I would welcome comments, but she talks to me as if I am stupid like I do not seem to think dd needs to be fed at lunch time.
Also, I do not trust my sister one bit! I do not like the person she has become, and if she wasn't my sister, I would have nothing to do with her. She annoys me, and I would hate to think dd would become anything like her. She gets away with anything and she has such a dodgy lifestyle now. I found out that when I allowed her to stay at mine (which I wasn't happy about, but my mum kept going on about it) to look after dd one night, and she had about 3 of her friends around. I couldn't believe it. She didn't even ask! I'm not saying that her friends would steal any of my stuff, but I don't know these people! Also when she takes dd out, she says she's taking her to one place but takes her somewhere else. I should at least know where my own child is!!
I don't want to offend my family, as I am glad that they are supportive. But they upset me, and I would just say to them how I feel. But I'm sure some of you can understand that you don't always like to offend your family. I am sorry that I have gone on and if I haven't made much sense.