Daughter ended a toxic relationship

[HereComesTheSummer]

This isn't about a romantic relationship but a friendship that has/had all the hallmarks of emotional abuse. My daughter has ended the friendship but it isn't going away quietly and I was just looking for some insights/suggestions for moving forward really. It's at the point where, in the case of an adult ex-romantic relationship, people would be talking about harassment and calling the police but this feels a bit heavy handed for a ex-friendship between two teenage girls.

if it feels like harassment, then it probably is...

Thank you. I'm just not sure how to handle it. The other girl's parents are aware of their daughter's behaviour but seem unable to help her regulate the emotions that underpin them and rely on her friends just tolerating and managing it themselves. And they just can't.

If you don't want to call the police then definitely speak to the other girl's parents and make them aware that the level of behaviour is distressing your DD.

This doesn't prevent you from contacting the police later if things do not improve.

OP,
It can be difficult if they are teens to know when to intervene or not.

However, from what you are writing it is serious and I think you should contact her parents privately and tell them that unfortunately it will become a police matter if their daughter cannot be made to understand her behaviour is not acceptable.

Follow through if necessary.

Her parents have a duty of care to their daughter, just as you have.

This girl may have MH issues that need addressing...either way your daughter needs protecting from her.

Your daughter may be shielding you have exactly how distressed she is feeling from all of this..

Wishing you well.

what age group are you dealing with OP ?

harassment is harassment ... you may need to consider involving a Police warning to prevent this escalating.

I hope your Daughter is not feeling intimidated anxious or worse considering caving to this ex-friend to stop this harassment campaign.

If they go to the same school could the school help? They might be a slightly softer option than the police but also know if and when further help is required.