Will he ever leave us alone

[Herewegoagain19891]

Feeling so low. Left exp with our daughter last year, he wasn't only abusive towards me but also our beautiful baby who is now coming up for her 2nd birthday.

He has continued to try and control me through dd, dragging us through the court system and all the while dd has been getting distressed when she returns.. the last time with finger mark bruises on her arms and dehydrated. Doesn't turn up for some contact (as he is meant to be building up) and then makes his demands to make up the time. Im at a complete loss, constantly being painted as the bad mum even though all I've ever asked is that exp sorts out his anger issues before being left unsupervised with dd.

Today I'm just feeling deflated, I'm hoping he will lose interest at some point, most likely after court is finished with and he gets his own way. Has anyone been through the same ? Did your abuser finally piss off and if he didn't how have you and your dcs coped?

Did you take her to hospital when he brought her back in that state? Get everything documented and report to police every single time. You need to protect her.

I didn't see the bruises until after she woke up but I did take photos. I raised the dehydration with exp via email who has tried to insinuating dd just doesn't drink, she drinks like a little fish which says to me he either isn't offering or she is distressed.

I've informed social but they've said because its in court there isn't much they can do. Part of me if just thinking of completely breaching the order and not sending her but the judge on our case hates unreasonable mother's.

You need to note down every single thing and also get a solicitor if you don't already have one. My ex didn't bother getting a solicitor and represented himself- needless to say it massively backfired on him and the judge (ours was serious went to district court level) saw him for who he truly was. CAFCASS too tell them everything and don't leave anything out. It's a long hard traumatic time but it's so important to fight with everything you have.

I do have a solicitor as does he. Judge not yet got to see ex because he has been represented. I've been documenting, telling gps, health visitor, so have witnesses, but not been able to present anything to the courts.

I'll always fight I just need a push at the moment there are some moments where I just think no one is listening anyway. Did any of you find you ex's got what they wanted and pissed off or continued to make your lives hell?

He’s not fucked off completely yet, but he has a gf 400 miles away and fingers crossed he makes it permanent.

When he finally won unsupervised contact he left the county and we haven't seen him since thank fully.

I do hope this is what happens with exp. I just have the feeling he'll seriously harm her once left alone with her. So far he has threatened to harm her and with the disregard for her welfare etc

There's more but I don't want to put too much up.

I went through the same and once he won contact he disappeared that was 8 years ago. Good luck op

Hey I was wondering if he left you alone in the end? X