Ah so there's a term for them?
One decided she wanted my DP. And wielded all her might to destroy me, because I resisted her attack. I was thinking the other day how she had lied to her neighbour about me and got the neighbour to spread things at school and turn people against me. Just one example. What she said to DP was wicked.
She left devastation in her wake and I lost a whole life but he said I was lucky to come out alive as she was very aggressive towards me.
And unfortunately I had another sort of developing QB as a close friend, too. Different flavour - non-UK so it took me a lot longer to realise what she was. Then by the time I was tripping over red flags I was v involved and DD too as QB friend was a kind of source of comfort during the above turbulence with DP (DD's DF). But then I 'defied' her as she saw it (a truth came out about someone very vicious in her family - I had decided to keep it quiet but a mutual friend mentioned it to her and she blamed me). She then showed her true colours. Literally screaming and ordering other friends to drop me. Enraged that anyone should hold with me. Thought up crazy and unfounded tales about me. Told DP I had a secret fiancée (!!!!). (no, I don't! Sadly 🤔).
She's very establishment - has uncommon influence due to her job. I've just never spoken to her again (after an attempt to reason with her and limit the damage - no chance). DD has had to just cope.
I'm most angry with both these women for the impact of their ruthless behaviour on my DC. Of course part of their MO is professing great love for my 'adorable' DC. They were visibly itching to take over and be a 'better' mother. Always both spouting advice and instructions. Always slightly annoyed that my DC were so lovely and curious as to how I could have achieved that. Given that both of them were suspicious of my kindness and openness, which they saw as weakness. I seemed to have no game plan and they couldn't quite believe that that approach could yield such results. They felt the uncomfortable emotion of admiring me despite their disapproval of my non-methods.
I didn't have a game plan, but the strategy of both to bring me down was to convince others that I did have.
I now understand that they were alarmed by my magic. My charm. Infuriated by it.
I'm lying low at the moment. Very careful who I turn my sunshine on! And getting my sh*t together in a modest game plan that will ultimately, I hope, let me help others in the way I always have. All this has made me understand and accept my own power (for good).
Queen bees are genuinely scary. They can and do practically ruin your life. All I can say is try not to attract their attention. But some of us can't help it, even if we look at the ground at school pick up. They despise us but are intrigued by our ingénue nature nevertheless. (They can't quite believe such idiots exist!!)
Just don't look them in the eye! 😬