What eventually made you feel better after husband leaving you for OW?

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I have to admit that my confidence was shot to pieces when husband left me for a younger version after a long marriage.

I'm really interested to know what made YOU feel better? Funny comments even better !! ;)

Not me but when my friend's husband left her for a younger colleague she was in pieces. However she was really cheered up by the fact that within a year him and his new wife were expecting twins (he was 50 at the time and had already gone through it all with their three children and she loved the idea of him having more years of sleepless nights and being at the school gate still at 60+).

OP sorry you are going through this but I am so impressed by your seeking of positivity! Looking forward to hearing some good 'uns the twins thing does sound like sweet revenge. No man ever aged 50 said that he truly wants is newborn twins!

When I used to hear all about their drunken public rows and then they had kids (lots) and he treated her like shit , getting pissed at a festival while she was due to have baby.
Now she's stuck with the hideous bastard and he's worse than ever.
She's 20 years my junior but 4 kids in 5 years means she looks older than me

Doing up my new house and moving into it, having a huge water leak on the first evening and realizing that not only could I stop the leak myself with the stopcock (not difficult) but also that my neighbours are non-judgmental, helpful legends.

Also, my big group of women friends who rallied round and stayed round throughout.

People who like you will get you through.

I was devastated at the time because we'd been together 20 years, but once I'd sorted my life and finances out my long years of depression completely went and I realised that he was the cause of it.
I realised I'd always looked at our marriage through rose tinted glasses and now I can see he was a manipulative cock lodger.
I don't have to put up with his continually stinking breath and BO which he never seemed to realise he had.
There is no bitching, moodiness, moping around looking miserable and being critical of all the really good things and blessings in our lives.
There is no constant moaning about sex, no matter how much we had or what we did it was never enough for him so in the end I just gave up trying.
No more fucking boring holidays going on his european city breaks, now I can go and see the northern lights and go to Greece and Italy as I've always wanted to.
No more long long silences because he is totally uncommunicative and quite frankly boring to talk to.
He never lifted a finger at home or in the garden so no more working full time and doing all the housework and gardening, now I only have to pick up after myself.
No more ironing his literally hundreds of teashirts. He's go to work in completely crushed unironed clothes and would often get sacked because of it, so I had to do all his ironing or it would be months of not having enough money.
His constant debt and hiding of bills. I'm really well of now I have my own slightly downsized home and I've paid everything off and a really good new job.
I can now visit my relatives and enjoy their company without him sulking in the corner saying nothing and making everyone feel awkward.
His heavy drinking.
I could go on.......my single life is fantastic, I'm so much happier.

My ex husband, left me for a women who worked in the next building, our business was taking off and he felt he could trade me in for a different model.

About a year later it all fell apart, business down the drain and although that wasn't good for me financially, it did knock his ego. Then he comes to me with the sob story that she's been cheating on him with his best mate.

Qué, woe is me, never should have left you, always loved you, blah blah blah. Which then turned into stupid, fat, cunt when I told him I was waaaay over him and wasn't going to play happy families with him.

Karma is a wonderful thing.

(Not gloating at all, you understand )

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My husband is depressed and miserable. He says he doesn't know what he wants, including me, he's saying he doesn't love me anymore but won't leave as he has nowhere to go.

My husband left me and moved in with a much older woman, a 'friend' he won't ever admit there is anything between them, but he lives there rent free (cocklodger) what make's me feel better is that she'll have to put up with him not contributing, making a mess of her flat and being a generally boring workaholic, while I go out and date much more exciting men.

My exH didn't leave me for an OW, but did get one fairly quickly after he left . She is around 12 years younger than me and him

You start to feel better anyway. But when he started turning up to pick up the kids in new clothes that she had clearly picked for him, and looking quite pained (think trendy trainers and skinny jeans on his dad bod) , it did make me laugh. Now, several years later, he's miserable and I've rebuilt my life, have a lovely house and a fab relationship with our children and I have little interest in him.

I had a boyfriend who left me for someone else. He frequently contacted me while he was with her, often while he was on holiday with her. That made me feel better. (as did spotting him on Guardian Soulmates while he was with her).

My husband left ne for another women someone i knew but not a friend. He then left her amd the cheeky mare turned up on my doorstep for sympathy. I invited her told her within a week she would realise it was the best thing that could happen and living without him was great.

He's go to work in completely crushed unironed clothes and would often get sacked because of it

@madcatladyforever They might not've said so, but it might well've been the bad breath and BO, too.

Not another woman. But 1st ex -looked him up on FB recently -he is so bald and ugly now. 2nd ex -no friends really and only sobs about how lonely he is -my heart really doesn't bleed for him.

I moved on quite quickly and am so happy with my now dp.
But I did chuckle to myself when one of my dc told me that she dumped him for someone much younger than him.

My ex also ended up having two extra (unwanted) babies in his 50's! Makes me laugh that I now have a brilliant relationship with our two twenty-something children and he is back to changing nappies in his mid fifties !!

@madcatladyforever haha ! You reminded me too of my ex who used to sit and sulk in the corner at family parties and I endlessly had to make up excuses for him.

The biggest laugh I had was that when he fell out with the OW, she stole my number off his phone and told me "you can have him back! He has no money, looks like a beggar and is a liar!". I happily declined and they are still (unhappily) together !!