I must have 'treat me like crap' tattooed on my forehead.

[GoodbyeToCare]

Over the last year my husband and mother have both treated me like crap. They've both done it on and off through the years - I'm in my forties now.

My husband and I are working on our marriage although it is bloody hard at times and my Mum has a preference for my brother which she's showing more than ever just now.

Why can't those closest to me not hurt me? I feel like walking away and if I didn't have children (eldest in their 20's and youngest mid teens) I probably would. I feel so low and beaten down by it all and as though I have totally had enough of them now.

Can anyone else relate?

So your brother is the golden child and you are the scapegoat.
Have a google and read up on it.

I can't actually relate or emathise but I can sympathise OP.
It must be awful for you.

Have you had counselling or therapy?
Are you and your 'D'H having counselling together?
What are you doing to work on your marriage?
I'm assuming we are talking abuse here?
If so then you need to get an exit plan in place.
Contact some organisations that may be able to help you.
Womens Aid. Rights of Women.

Have you looked into separation and what it would mean for you?
You don't have to keep putting up with this.
But please do talk to someone impartial who can help you.

If you feel really low all the time then please contact your GP.