Walking away from a narcissist - continued

[Nursing2029]

OK, so I clearly did not know what i was dealing with.
I confronted my narcissist over sexting videos he had been sending throughout our four year relationship and left.
The narcissism alone was enough to leave the relationship.
He then apologised about the videos, reeled me back in , i know more fool me.
I now need to leave again but I am at a really low point,
He was sorry for about a week and then he started his usual behaviour which is nothing short of bullying.
Looking for a bit of support ladies to get back out of this. X

There's not a lot I can say. The final decision has to come from you.

What I will say is that I was involved briefly with a classic narc. That period of my life was full of anxiety and drama. I would wake up feeling sick with anxiety everyday. He destroyed my self confidence, rowed with me daily over the most stupid of things, pressured me into doing things I didn't want to do, sexually abused and humiliated me and finally cheated on me. When he was out of my life everything was so much calmer and happier. I found me again. But even now I am still emotionally scarred from what I went through.

You know this guy is a cheat, bully and an abuser. You will never be happy with him and the longer it goes on the harder it will be. Create a better life for yourself and your kids (if you have any) and don't waste another day on this arsehole. You will thank yourself believe me.

@Tiny37373
Thanks, the support on here is amazing and its the reason I posted again.
I never thought I would go back again, I am so angry with myself.
Thanks for your advice and I hope you are ok x

@Nursing2029 don't be angry with yourself . These guys are good manipulators. But just remember you managed to leave before and it will be easier to do it a second time. This time block contact so he can't get inside your head and worm his way back in again. It's the only way. Stay strong and go get the life you deserve

@Tiny37373
Thanks
It has been an experience and a half. Thank you and take care. Xx

First it all.... I read your first thread so I know the whole situation ( I posted once or twice just generally under a different username),.

No judgement from me, you are in an abusive relationship and they are notoriously hard to leave. Narcissist relationships are addictive by nature.

This is like a smoker picking up a pack of cigarettes on a night out and back to smoking 20 a day within a week. We are human, we make mistakes.

So.... You need to educate yourself , you know he hoovered you? You understand hoovering? This time it worked. It wont next time

Right. This relationship will never be good again. Ever. You understand the phases of a narcissistic relationship.... Idealise/Devalue/Discard. He will never idealise you for any length of time again. That week was what you got. A relationship with him will be a revolving door or devalue and discard with a smidgeon of idealise to reel you in when it looks like he is losing you .

You need to understand narcissism . I'm pretty up in it. If you have any questions I'll be happy to answer them.

Don't let yourself be low about this, you fucked up! We all do! It's going to be okay.

Ah, no! I was wondering how you were getting on op. That sucks that he reeled you back, I know how much you struggled to get away in the first place.

No advice this time as I think you probably know the score by now. But you've left once, so you know the drill, get to it! Just delete and block and keep your door locked this time!

@Patience344
Thanks for explaining all this.

I totally underestimated him and his behaviour.
I feel worse this time, almost ill.
I can't believe people behave like this.
So silly to think he could have possibly changed in the slightest.
I thought he would be a bit remorseful about his behaviour.
Silly me x

@Bunnymumy
Hi , i do know the drill.
Thanks for the support, this helped so much the last time.
This time.i am going to do it properly x

They never change. They are empty shells of beings with no empathy. They are that kid you threaten with the headmasters office who shrug and don't care.

You are his supply. You need to cut him off. The shit person he shows you is the real him. The apologetic person is who he pretends to be to reel you back in.

I've been there and got the t shirt. The peace and tranquility you will feel when you leave for good is wonderful. Please leave soon and safely.

@Narcsrus
I dont know how people get through life like this.
I have made a few mistakes that I am not proud of but he is off the scale mean, horrible and everytime turns it round to me.
Thanks for your message x