Cheating again?

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So... my partner has been acting strange. On Thursday he came home late, his excuse was that he was working late& they said he could have the next day off. When he walked through the door, he had obviously been drinking/ taken something. He said that his last customer gave him tramadol as he said his back hurt? I highly doubt this. I had also given him £200 to pay a bill. None of this was used to pay a bill, it was all withdrawn in cash.

I looked on his phone- only because I suspected something. Turns out he has a number named as "call out team" I had a look at the messages& added the number to WhatsApp to see who it was.. it was his ex girlfriend.

He cheated on me with her when I was pregnant over 2 years ago, I then caught him messaging her again & now he's back doing it. What do I do?

How do I approach this? I'm done with this. I gave birth to our second child 3 weeks ago. I'm so so done

Do you want to leave him or make it work ?

@missrabbit23 I don't think I can make it work. After 3 times? I don't think anything's going to change

Are you in a position we're you are financially ok to leave? If so get your ducks in a row before u say anything.

Financially not really, but I do have a small amount of savings. I'll have enough to pay bills& live. I can go back to my mums house- she has a big property. The only tie I have to him is the tenancy on the house.

Just go then, he wont change.
Good on you for not putting up with this shit!

What absolute scum doing that to you when you have not long had a baby 😡 you have all the evidence you need. He can't be trusted , you deserve better.

Would you consider calling the ex? Asking if she's going to keep hanging on for him despite your growing family? Leave anyway sure, but call her out for her dreadful behaviour too .

Yes. Back to the drawing board. Off he pops.
Get him to leave. Take your time and I hope he suffers.
Make him pay his part financially too.
Good luck 👍

@looka**@lookatmememe I have confronted her in the past. She said that I was I sane& tried to deny it. Basically tried to make out it was all in my head... when I had clear screenshots I clouding her number! But I may tell her boyfriend while
I'm there.

I don't know how to confront him. I know he will kick off about me going on his phone. I only done it this time as I needed to know what was going on, I had suspicions which I found

I also cannot see the full extent of the messages as he deleted them.

Wanker. Don't ask tell. 'I know you have been doing this and I'm moving out' It's a rental and I'm guessing no assets to divide? So you need yo make sure no debts either so get a good financial picture before you leave, copies of everything etc.

Say it in front of the bf, why not? You will have already made your arrangements so see if you can get screenshots/proof too. They deserve each other.

Oh and see some kind of solicitor because if he decides to gamble everything away and take loans you will be responsible for half. See if you can get anything out of your joint bank account if you have one.

You are also going to need to get work or universal credit very soon as he will not support you financially.

You don't need proof. This relationship is doing you more harm than good and you're not required to stay in it.
You can go to your mum.
He won't change. He's a rubbish father because good fathers don't put their children's mother through this shit.

Tell her boyfriend