Is there an excuse for sexting (with a stranger)?

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Is it harmless?
For context -not a sexless marriage but everything pretty stale.
They should still talk about it first before doing online sex talk shouldn't they?

Would ds not benefit from two happier parents ?

Ds cares mainly about his routine staying the same.

This is obviously a really difficult decision. All I can say is that my ex became a better parent after we split because he had to be. Yes, the kids were devastated but they've recovered and now have a much happier mummy.
Knowing that he has betrayed you like this and not getting any emotional support is going to eat away at you and consume your soul.
I've been there done that. It's so much better getting out.

I feel really sick. As if life isn't uncertain enough already :-(