Going out -do you give warning or not

[emelsie]

Just wanted to know what other people do in their relationships especially if you have children, if you wanted to go out of an evening with friends would you only go if you had planned it and let your OH know etc or if you were invited out for that night would you just tell them you were going and leave an hour or so later ?

Are both acceptable ? What if it was an evening you expected to be with your OH?

Trying to see who is being unreasonable here.

The spontaneous thing wouldn’t be a hard no but probs not very often. There would still be a conversation about it and some consideration.

Both are fine in our house planned ahead or spur of the moment!

I look forward to his couple of days off all week

But I imagine so does he, because he gets to have a break... from working. I do understand your point of view somewhat OP, but it's not unreasonable of him to want to see his friends too on the days he's not working, particularly if you haven't made any real plans. What difference would it make if he gave you loads of notice anyway?

Be careful not to be too honest about your disappointment on here OP, you’ll be called controlling and all sorts 🙄

I understand your disappointment if you look forward to his days off. OTOH he’s not being unreasonable to want to go either. I would just expect the consideration from him to check you’re ok having the DC.