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Does honesty truly exist?

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Curious78 · 02/07/2020 10:35

I have been seeing someone for the last 2 months, things were going GREAT until this week when I started to get that gut feeling that something was 'off'. His messages were waning, were a little one sided and generally more distant. I raised the distant mood with him and he told me he was struggling with his ex and her unreasonableness over the kids. Nothing to do with me, phew. I woke up this morning still with that feeling and so I set up a fake profile on the dating app we met on. The dating app in which he had suspended his account. Or so he said. "Last active within 24 hrs". I took a screen shot and messaged him with it, saying that I thought I was being silly and that I didn't realise he still used Match. He replied with "I deleted the account when I was on the phone to you". I pointed out that if you look closely, you can see that it says you were online within 24 hrs. He read it and that was that. No sorry, nada. Radio silence. He has been active online since of course. He is meant to be coming over to mine tonight. I think it's safe to say that won't be happening!! How can someone lie when the truth is staring at them in the face? Wtf is wrong with people? I don't know what the point of this post is really. More to have a rant I suppose. Fed up.

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Windmillwhirl · 02/07/2020 10:49

He lied because he was caught and he is a coward.

Sounds like he was pulling away but wanted to have someone else lined up before he pulled the plug. I'm glad you scuppered that for him.

I'm sure it will hurt for a while but you know you will be ok. Not a decent guy!

tarasmalatarocks · 02/07/2020 11:02

I honestly think some people use these sites as ‘entertainment/ego boosters’ even when they have a great relationship staring them in the face— I have a friend (woman) who did this. She wasn’t really interested in a relationship and had a perfectly ok boyfriend who she got on well with— she had got into the ‘habit’ of it when single and simply couldn’t stop using them to ‘cheer her up, make her feel in demand’ as she told me. Nuts!! This guy may well have been the same

SWMH8 · 02/07/2020 11:05

I think honesty is becoming rarer commodity than gold tbh. But that's just my circumstances , I've had extended family/ workmates lie to me recently and it's depressing. However the only time I've ever caught my husband out on a lie was a surprise he was keeping from me, so honest people are still out there. Just make honesty top of the list. You did good to chuck the lying loser. I'm sorry you had to though.

Crystalspider · 02/07/2020 12:17

Sorry you went through this but better you found out sooner rather than later and good for you for confronting him about it, just goes to show the gut feeling isn't wrong.

GroovyGrove · 02/07/2020 20:46

Op you sure your not dating my ex?... he said I deleted on the phone too lol like did talking to suddenly remind you.

Men theses days find it extremely hard to not use app cause it's a pattern of behaviour.

They will lie, hide and then beg forgiveness

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