new bloke follows porn stars on twitter - ditch?

[cheezy]

Believing that it's always a good idea to see what exists of a potential new boyfriend online, I googled the bloke I've been seeing. In amongst the hundreds of writers, journalists and generally worthy and interesting people that he follows on Twitter are a few porn stars/ escort type accounts. Maybe ten or 15 or so. I find this off-putting and think I should dump. Or am I being a prude? WWYD?

Would ghost him. This is an instant nope for me.

I like sex, but as I got into dating after a divorce I also dumped anyone with a really high sex drive (as in, wanting it multiple times a day/everyday that sort of thing) as invariably they were big into porn use and I couldn't see their being able to have a relationship that included changes in sex drive that can sometimes happen (and reading the posts on here years later from women with sex pest partners, I can see my spidey senses were right).

Thanks all. Yes, it doesn’t feel right.

Dump. I mean he's following these people in public which is a whole new level. Plus stupid. And escorts which indicates he uses them. I'm impressed by your due diligence I must say!

My DH was friends on FB with a few
glamour type models when we met, I think they were there from way back when he was - as a PP put it - a bit juvenile. I asked him to defriend them and he did it straight away. Happily together almost 10 years now. So it all depends why and when he followed them - worth having a conversation first if you think there's a chance it's fairly innocent?

I think glamour models and escorts are slightly different. Glamour models are quite public but escorts you kind of have to know where to look...

Ditch.

I would dump as well.

Good luck with the next one

I think you are absolutely right to check someone out like online. An ex fwb of mine had a highly professional job, private school, very well spoken, discerning taste in music/literature/art etc. Yet he saw no problem with seeing prostitutes, tried to coerce me into threesomes, risky sex etc. This man thinks it’s ok to objectify women - to the extent that it’s public knowledge on his profile.

Sounds ewwww. But..a friend of mine runs a Twitter account for a particular area of the NHS and she's constantly bewildered by how many porn/escort accounts start following the NHS one. She only noticed after following a couple back without really looking at their accounts and receiving a concerned email from the head of nursing . Most are bot accounts who start following accounts they have no connection with whatsoever.

@Vodkacranberryplease fair point!

@WhereILiveIsWhereIStay well yes (looks ashamed) a few years ago when I first set up our twitter we used an agency to get followers and my then business partner noticed many were of the somewhat dodgy kind.

So we had to go through and purge them! The one good thing he did. But we didn't follow them, though there is a twitter thing where you follow those who are following you so they keep following you I think.

But I doubt this is it. Strongly doubt in fact.

Vile, definitely ditch

I once dated a guy, high profile job, public twitter with own name and all, and following loads of porn stars. It was extremely embarrassing as I was trying to show his photo to my friend one day so googled his name and then we came across his twitter account and all that.

Later I googled his twitter handle (a lot of people use the same username for everything) and came across loads of posts on sex type forums and it was pretty horrible.

Dump him. At the very minimum this points to a lack of self awareness and respect for women