Ending a 10 year relationship 3 kids under 5.

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Hi I really need some advice please as I am finding this hard already.
I left my partner that I've been with since 16 we was together for 10 years.

We have three kids under 5, youngest is 6 months now.

I told him to leave because he was quite controlling and it was getting ridiculous and emotionally abusive. And my kids deserve so much more.

I don't love him anymore but I miss the person he used to be how do I stop feeling so needy to call him at night? I haven't but i think about it a lot.

I do not want him back in my home and I do not want a relationship again with him.

It has been hard even leaving him I've tried so many times over the years, this is the longest now he's been gone in all these years.

I am finding it okay on my own I get a bit frightened at night but my friends are also my neighbours so that's comforting.
My children are still happy but have now started misbehaving more which I expected.

One is at school every day and the other two are home.

How do I correct this behaviour? They are now taking a long time to respond to me asking them to stop doing something.

Money wise I'm up shit creek but I'll be fine I think, his child support would be something like £6.99 a week for three children as he has now reduced his hours down.

And lastly what do I do about contact? He's being irritating not responding to my messages on contact. I've offered him to have them at his mums or mine for a few hours but I get no reply.

Thank you if you made it this far reading

Well done 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. I was with my ex for 10 years, since the age of 14. Keep going and don't look back! Do not waste anymore years on him.

Regarding contact. Put the table there, offer him the hours and that's it. Don't badger him, it's up to him now, you've done the leg work. His still upset that you hurt him and is taking it on you hence not responding. He will come around but that's not your problem.

It's now turned sour he's more interested in me than the kids. Has seen them once spent he whole time trying to get me into bed I declined. He left the next morning.
He's just found a new full time job for way more money. Do I start my CMS claim now or wait till he's settled in? The start date is for four weeks whilst he works he's other notice.
I feel a bit happier now but my daughter has been so naughty I am finding managing her hard work at the moment!.
He is more obsessed by if men have been in the house or what I'm doing. I've asked him to discuss what days he will see them or have them over and he gets angry.

It's now turned sour he's more interested in me than the kids. Has seen them once spent he whole time trying to get me into bed I declined. He left the next morning.
He's just found a new full time job for way more money. Do I start my CMS claim now or wait till he's settled in? The start date is for four weeks whilst he works he's other notice.
I feel a bit happier now but my daughter has been so naughty I am finding managing her hard work at the moment!.
He is more obsessed by if men have been in the house or what I'm doing. I've asked him to discuss what days he will see them or have them over and he gets angry.

Don't ask him when he wants to see them if he's not interested leave him to it. It will make your life easier in the long run. X