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Managing a relationship work when neither of us have much privacy

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Wheelyyyy · 01/07/2020 09:31

Seeing someone I love very much.

He has his children 50/50.

My 18 and 19 year old are at home most of the time at the moment...theyd normally have uni, college, work etc. and possibly looking to move into student accommodation (altho they look like they are not moving anytime soon lol).

Getting time to ourselves is really tricky and throws up a couple of issues.

  1. We only have space to ourselves at his house. No problem accept it means....Im always at his and I start to feel a bit resentful.
  2. We try to see each other at both mine and his. At his when he has the kids (not every night) and then a night at his when he doesnt have the kids. Then him staying at mine the other nights but Im finding it awkward because we have no space here whatsoever.

The thing im looking for is for him to be part of my life and making sure we work that way. But with covid, nothings normal is it lol

Ive compromised so much in my marriage of 14 years and my last relationship of 14 years, that this time round....I want to make sure that Im looking after what makes me feel ok too. My lads are older now and for the first time I want to put myself first sometimes..

Is there such thing as a balance in these circumstances??
I think Im trying to sort my thoughts and feeling out before I speak to Mr Lovely.

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RLEOM · 01/07/2020 15:54

That is tricky but at least you get some time alone together. Are your kids planning on moving out any time soon?

Wheelyyyy · 01/07/2020 19:04

No....i think i have them thru uni. It makes practical sense and im torn between glad they are still here but ready for them to take the next step.

Its like when u know u have kids ready for school......

Im guessing you dont have much privacy?

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