Dealing with my ex

[Billibob84]

Hi all. My ex is moving out in the next few days. Weve been separated for almost a year but stuck together for financial/lock down reasons. I ended the relationship because it was not good, wont get into it but emotionally abusive and we were both completely miserable. He has never forgiven me for it and says I've ripped the family apart etc.
I asked if we could sit down and tell our 4 year old what was happening. He has said he will speak to her when he's ready and tell her that 'mummy doesnt want daddy to live here anymore so I've got to move out'. This is potentially damaging to her but I don't know how to deal with it. He won't listen to any reasoning and says he won't lie to her. Do I try and get in first or is that just game playing, should i just wait it.out and pick up the pieces when hes gone?

Hey! Firstly well done for staying in the same house for a year. That must of been hard. I to, split from my dd dad 3 years ago and had to stay in the same house for 4 months and that was bad enough. Regarding your dd, my ex said the same. Basically trying to turn my dd against me. He never did say anything to her and I didn’t either. If she asks any questions. I just say say we’re much happier now. She doesn’t need to know the ins and outs and when she’s older she will be told and can make her own judgement. I’d say wait, see what he does and then act from there x

Thanks, yeah its not been much fun, lockdown was a very cruel twist but hey ho there's light at the end of the tunnel finally! How are you doing now?
Yes friends have said to get in there first and give my side but I feel that's just playing his game. Like you say I'm tempted to do as you suggest, sit back, let him do his worst and hold on to the fact that they will figure him out eventually hopefully xx