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Anyone ever been snooped on/ stalked on line ? How did you know?

34 replies

hyperhydrangea · 29/06/2020 21:58

Just that. My sixth sense is on high alert. I am on WhatsApp, twitter, Facebook and Inwonder how do you know or can you prove of someone is following you or looking you up consistently. Is there a concrete way of knowing?
My settings on fb are private .. friends only but twitter seems to be open as is WhatsApp. Thanks .

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Ohnoherewego62 · 29/06/2020 23:26

Depends how many contacts he has or if you're in the top of his messages list as in he maybe doesnt speak to very many people on whatsapp and only has a few conversations open. He could have been looking to speak to someone and saw you were back online aswell.

You know how you feel OP, don't minimise it! I'd feel the same way considering he cheated on you aswell. You're quite right not to trust him. Paranoia is a natural response to it.

Is there anyway you could change phones? That way you'd know for definite. It's none of his concern what you do with your life now. He had his chance.

You did nothing wrong and have nothing to hide.

user1481840227 · 29/06/2020 23:38

If he doesn't use whatsapp for that many chats then your conversation could have been on the screen when he opened up whatsapp...so he wouldn't necessarily have happened to go searching. He could just have happened to notice he was unblocked

user1481840227 · 29/06/2020 23:41

My ex's new gf was facebook stalking me. She added me as a friend by mistake. She removed the request but not before facebook notified me.

Could have been a one off. Nearly everyone does that!!

TropicalSun · 30/06/2020 00:18

You can’t see who’s online on WhatsApp by looking down your contact list, you have to have their chat window open to see, same with typing and you can only see typing if they’re messaging you, if they’re messaging someone else you’d see online.

It could be that the man happened to have WhatsApp open and either saw your profile picture become visible again or if you’ve changed it since you blocked him that it updated, Android and iPhones seem to handle WhatsApp blocking differently regarding profile pics but either change would let him know he wasn’t blocked anymore.

Weird about your ex though.

WelshBunnyBoilerIsStalkingMe · 30/06/2020 00:19

I've been unknowingly online stalked for the 2 and a half years online by my husbands mistress (I only found out recently he was having and affair
But it was her odd online behaviour that alerted me).
She did it mostly through FB. My FB is set to mostly customised friends and pretty damn private but I do use alot of FB groups.
For me it's weird stuff like if I post in a local community group something like where is there a passport photo booth locally, she always replied first.
Then she would post bizarre things on local groups about xmas/birthday gifts/ideas for her "boyfriend" (My 55 yo husband) but with too much info about his life,work location, career, age etc. At the time I thought it was someone with perhaps a learning disability as there was just too much info in each post with no idea she was trying to get my attention or linking the similarities to my husband. It's only once I sussed her out and went back and did a search I found over 400 posts all hinting heavily who her "boyfriend" was!!
She also worked out where I worked by a well meaning genuine friend tagging me on a community page with some random person asking a genuine question about my workplace (that deals with the public).
I kindly gave limited info to answer this person. Then over 2 years she posted several times with "Anyone work at X can tell me what the procedure is for xyz/what time it opens/How much is the car park" etc etc. She even wrote a Trip Adviser review on me!!

It turns out she even turned up and got me to deal with her, me totally unwittingly.

She found out quite a bit about me despite my privacy settings by using time and pretending to need help on community groups. So be careful what you answer on those!!

It works both ways. I've now sussed her out and know loads about her. That was a real eye opener. Once you have someone's email address and full name and address it's amazing what you can find online.

I found Trip Adviser reviews she'd written for various hotels and restaurants which coincided with the dates my husband was so say working away.

She reviewed sex toys, is on ITV news fairly regularly for a campaign she's running, I know her Dad died, I know where her son goes to school,plays Rugby, She eats alot of desserts, goes Line Dancing etc etc. I know where she works. I know quite a few people she works with take the piss out of her a bit and I get the impression they humour her and aren't that keen.

Obviously I'm not a fan of her, but she does cone across as a bit if an oddball.

Anyway I'm going off on a tangent now, but basically it turns out she is pretty obsessed with me. She wants my life, my marriage (she's welcome to the shit husband), my house, my job etc etc. She got desperate for her married man to leave his wife and kids and after 3 years I can't blame her, but he was spinning her the age old line with no intention of leaving, so her stalking obsession led to her dropping huge hints so I'd find out but it was actually her size 18, 99p, skid marked Primark knickers she probably intentionally hid in our family car that gave the game away.

FedUpOfChangingName · 30/06/2020 00:24

I currently get stalked by someone, iv blocked her on everything, so she gets her friends to stalk me on local facebook pages. If i post anything on there, she knows within minutes.
Very sad and pathetic

They are all women in there 30's with kids....
Weirdos!!!!

TropicalSun · 30/06/2020 00:28

Do you know if this guy has WhatsApp read receipts on and off?
I caught someone checking up on me by turning my read receipts on then posting a WhatsApp status, if they have read receipts on then you will be able to see they have viewed the status. Might not be useful for you seeing as you know he has your number, in my case the person in question shouldn’t even have had my number. You can also control which contacts can see your WhatsApp status just adjust the settings before you post the status or they won’t apply.

763freedom · 30/06/2020 00:29

Make sure you change your play or iPhone store (wherever you download your apps) password too as that has a record of apps you have downloads. How recent is your ex - as in would he have a tablet or a laptop/pc that was previously logged in and would sync to your phone?
Sometimes coincidences do happen but sometimes you just know in your gut x

Stella8686 · 30/06/2020 21:22

@WelshBunnyBoilerIsStalkingMe wow!!!

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