My EA partner won’t accept its over

[Violet30]

We’ve been together 12 years and got 2 children together and a mortgage.
He’s always controlled the money and everything in the house. Told me I’m not allowed to look a certain way etc stonewalls me all the time when I’ve done the tiniest thing wrong. Has no patience with the kids angers quickly etc.
So I ended things about a week ago, and he refuses to accept it, he got angry and tried to smash up my phone scared the living shit out of me tbh.
But now he’s swearing he’ll change and that he’ll get us a joint bank account, I can do anything I want, he’s suicidal etc
He wears me down constantly asking me and begging me for another chance.
I don’t even know what I’m expecting from posting but I guess just for some emotional support or anyone else been in this horrible situation before?

[glitterfarts]

Is your name also on the deeds to the house.
If so, don't just remove them. You'd be entitled to 50% equity of the house.

[PicsInRed]

Report his behaviour to both the police and your GP.

Hes abusive and abuse along with low earnings and assets qualifies you for legal aid in family court. You will need this.

Dont have your name taken off the mortgage until you are sure you dont own half the house - you likely have your name on the deeds and an entitlement to be bought out of your share.

As this may be the only child support you ever receive from a man like this, take what you can get, when you can get it.

[PicsInRed]

But do move out immediately. I would be concerned that now he knows you're serious, he kills you and/or the kids.

[Violet30]

Omg this is one of my fears too 🤦‍♀️ I mean I know it’s dramatic but it has happened plenty of times right!
I do own half the house but I just want out ASAP