When did you realise they were The One?

[shakiwulub9]

Thought this would be a nice thread of positivity in these mad times. At what point did you realise that your SO was "the one"? :)

@mellowww awwww! 💖 so nice to read! :)

Cheesy but there's a Taylor Swift song 'You are in love' that always gets me thinking about my partner (9yrs now) especially the line "You can hear it in the silence, you can feel it on the way home"

Like, for me, there's no laundry list of qualities that I love about him, i mean there is, but more importantly its the sitting quietly in the back of a taxi holding hands, giving little kisses on the back of my neck when I'm washing up, cuddling every day and still staring into each others eyes 9yrs on and lots and lots of laughter!

Its the quiet stuff, not the noisy stuff, that makes him my One :)

@AllAboutWineGums - This reminds me of a relationship I had when I was 17, I remember lying on his bed with my head on his chest and spending hours talking, he told me about his Dad passing away as a child and he shed a few tears, we had a special connection for such youngsters. He went to university and we realised due to our age and the distance it probably wouldn’t work and we both ended things, I was heartbroken.

Very very early on when he kind of dumped me! (We were both internet dating and seeing multiple people and he decided to commit to a relationship with one of the other women.) I decided that while I wasn't going to do the "pick me" dance I also wasn't going to let my pride get in the way of a great friendship and possibly more down the line so I stuck around as a friend.. It didn't take him long to see the error of his ways

I thought I'd met ther one at 19. We met at uni. The room stood quiet around us. Everyone could feel the chemistry between us. The humour and banter was incomparable. And there was the chemistry that you read about.
He turned out to be a twat who broke my heart over and over again for the next 15 years.
When I met DH, (through OLD) I felt the chemistry and magic immediately. Though older wiser and more jaded we instantly had the chemistry humour and banter and physical attraction. Additionally, which I had never felt in the past with anyone was the feeling that I had met the kindest man in the world. This time older and wiser I took this to mean he's not the one but he's someone special and we need to see where this goes.

5 years on, gained a husband, one DS, one new house, one new business. Lost one parent, one job and one baby and I can confidently say he's the one. I still believe he's the kindest man in the world, I still fancy him and we still have a giggle together before bed.

Some lovely stories on here ☺💕
I totally agree about them being kind - it sounds so obvious, but truly kindness, thoughtfulness and consideration go such a long way!

I am currently dating a man who my gut feeling honestly tells me he is The One.
Our paths crossed briefly about 8 years ago and neither of us thought anything of it.
When we met for the first time for our first date, something instantly clicked for me. And he would say the same thing 😊 We met for dinner at 6pm, and the restaurant had to ask us to leave at midnight because they were closing - we didn't even realise the time! It just flew by, we laughed until our tummies hurt and the dating game has been non-stop fun and happiness ever since. He has shown more interest and value in me in 2 months than my ex did in 2 years. We are so in-sync and we have so much in common, even random little things that I wouldn't even think of. He is just amazing, and makes me feel amazing.
I've got a good feeling about this one ...😊💕

I totally agree about them being kind - it sounds so obvious, but truly kindness, thoughtfulness and consideration go such a long way!

It really does. As cliched as it sounds there have been times I have actually sprung tears over a kind thing he has done for me. I think that is the result of accepting so little in previous relationships. The daily acts of kindness mean so much more than anything material as it really shows the essence of someone that is a good, decent person.

It’s a great question - I find it very difficult to articulate. My husband is my second side, my best friend and I know we will be together for the rest of our lives. It’s just hard to pinpoint the first moment I really thought that. He does things and says things constantly that reiterate how much he loves me for who I am/knows me so completely...but when did I think that for sure? Maybe it’s lots of things - the way you feel in the run up to your wedding; no nerves, no arguments, everything so sure?

Recently we were discussing what would happen if one of us died (this was a will related discussion), and I just clearly felt it that I would not be searching for a replacement. This is it for me. I found the love of my life and we have our babies and I would want to replace him with anyone else because it could just never match up, and because I found the thing I was searching for.

Also, we laugh. We always laugh. We never go a day without making one another laugh - not as something we try to do on purpose but just because we enjoy one another’s company.

What a lovely thread

Asked DH when he realised I was the one and he said “when I read your IMDb reviews. Because who does that?!” 😆

Met my husband at a party when I was 16. Knew he was the one. Been married 40 years. He is my best friend too.

@Needtogetbackinthesack

I didn’t quite say - find someone suitable on a practical level 😂
I said - find someone who makes you happy (=gives you butterflies, makes you laugh, who you fancy, etc) AND with whom you have common goals and who you can coexist in OK in a mundane world of dishwashing and vacuuming...

Because relationships start of with emotional/hormonal explosion of attraction - which is what people associate with ‘feeling they met the One’.
But then real life eventually starts.
So the lucky ones who make it through years are the ones who manage to navigate the boring day/to/day life together. And this is where compatibility on some basic level matters.

I think there can be more than 'the one' or at least I'm hoping so.
I was with my XH for 19 years, in the beginning actually I didn't feel overwhelmed by lust, I did like him but the love grew with friendship and aswell as being my lover, we were so compatible. We did grow apart but still feel he was in my life for a purpose and was right at the time.
I just hope now that I will find someone I can spend the next half of my life with.