I think I may be bi

[Confused109]

Ok long one

I'm a 32 year old single mum to a three year old! And as my name suggests I'm CONFUSED

basically I spent my entire 20s jumping from man to man and always feeling like there was something missing! Everyone always said "you just haven't met the one" I fell pregnant at 29 and it's the best thing that ever happened to me it gave me something to focus on and I am a brilliant mum my son is my absolute life
I co parent with his dad who I get on brilliantly with! We tried for a few years but weren't happy together and the best thing for us all was to split!

I end up in sexless relationships as after a few months of rampant sex I just don't want it anymore like I said something is missing! It's always felt like I'm going through the motions of sex

Anyway since being a single mum the last two years I have found myself more curious about women and feeling a bit more attracted to them! I see lesbian couples and feel they have more passion between them than I have ever had with any man!! I'm so confused right now

Please someone tell me I'm not going crazy and if anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it

Thanks

Not all lesbian couples have passion and not all of them have rampant sex all the time. Read up on lesbian bed death.
That's my two cents as I've been in relationships with men and women. (I'm approaching 40 so a it older than you).
By all means, try if you want to, there's nothing wrong with that. But don't expect it to he the cure to your all problems. Good luck and have fun ;)

Why wouldn't you be attracted to women !! We are bloody gorgeous 😉

And I wouldn't say that lesbians have better relationships than heterosexuals - after all I'm sure any woman can be as much of a pain in the ass as the next man 😂

There are so many options available to you via OLD apps so why not meet a few fellow bi-Curious females and see how it goes ?

I'm bisexual (hence my username)

The lesbian thing is a projection and suggests that you are hoping that with a woman you would find this thing that you're missing.

Two things to say really.

One - the only way to find out is to try

Two - bisexuals have a bad reputation for this amongst lesbians. No woman wants to be the one a bicurious confused woman experiments on.

The best way to find out would be to start going to places where women who like women are hanging out (bit difficult at the moment) and just see what happens. Meet people and make friends, get to know them and see what feelings emerge.

Just don't go with the intention of working out your issues on someone else. That isn't fair.

@bitheby

I'm bisexual (hence my username)

The lesbian thing is a projection and suggests that you are hoping that with a woman you would find this thing that you're missing.

Two things to say really.

One - the only way to find out is to try

Two - bisexuals have a bad reputation for this amongst lesbians. No woman wants to be the one a bicurious confused woman experiments on.

The best way to find out would be to start going to places where women who like women are hanging out (bit difficult at the moment) and just see what happens. Meet people and make friends, get to know them and see what feelings emerge.

Just don't go with the intention of working out your issues on someone else. That isn't fair.

Yeah I totally get what you are saying

Once lockdown is lifted I need to get myself out there and like you said see how I feel! I'd never use someone as an experiment I'm just really confused at the moment x

I think all I'd say with the benefit of my vast experience (not) is that the first time I was attracted to a woman, I was struck by how similar it was. The feelings were the same as the men I'd had attractions to. Some things were easier; other things harder but overall, love is love.

I am genuinely bisexual - attracted to people rather than their anatomy and tend to be attracted to personality and intellect rather than bits and pieces. I find that I'm attracted to the person's outside once I'm attracted to their insides. If you are really gay but haven't realised it yet, then your experience may well be different.

I still haven't found the right person. Just coming out of a three year relationship with a man that wasn't what I hoped it'd be so figuring out your sexual orientation is just the first step. Finding a partner is still the same heap of luck and chance and heartache (in my case!!).

Sounds like you have nothing to lose op, however as a lesbian don’t think female relationships are all hearts and flowers, they can be crazy!
You’re single so just go with the flow, but as pp said just be careful to be honest and not lead anyone on while you figure things out

I'm bi, have been in relationships with men and women, have had some form of sex life decline with some of both. If you fancy women, go for it! But be aware that it won't necessarily be a ticket to nonstop orgasms 6 times a week for the rest of your life. Unless you're lucky.