How quickly do you love?

[inmyshoos]

I know this is difficult to answer because everyone has a different definition of love but when you are in a relationship how quickly do you personally feel it.

I had a 7 month relationship and he said very early in he loved me, still maintains that he does (stayed friends) but I never felt it despite caring for him and liking him a lot.

Next relationship I felt within a few weeks that I loved him or at least had the potential to love him and despite not being together anymore I still love him which makes me think it wasn't just lust.

Does it come at different times for everyone? Different types of love? I know in the beginning of a good relationship its easy to confuse the strong desire/lust feelings with love but I also think sometimes you just know.

Interested to hear other people's opinions.

I don't.

I've had a couple of long term abusive relationships and a number of short term 'flings' in my life but I've never been in love and I've never been loved either.

I've felt the potential for it a couple of times but that's about all...

I maybe fall in love easily. I wouldn't tell the person early on nowadays though, as it seems a bit weird/over the top.

Ooh I'm following this with interest.

I've been with someone a few weeks and I knew from the first date he was going to be special to me. He feels the same. Neither of us has said we love each other but I think we both do, and we both see this as being a long term thing.

But I read a lot on MN that falling in love quickly is a red flag so I've really consciously tried to hold back.

It's always happened before 7 months though, but I'm not sure if that just makes me someone who jumps in heart first as none of my precious relationships have lasted...

I think you know early on or at least I do. I think instinctively I know if I 'could' love someone quite early on.
You can just feel the potential

I don’t think you can REALLY love somebody until you REALLY know them well- not just the honeymoon phase of the relationship- I mean the way you can only really know someone after you’ve known them for at least a couple of years....

All the “lovey” feelings on the beginning is chemical reactions and crazy hormones!! Sounds unromantic but it’s true!