DS is at an independent SN school. About half the children are self-funded, half LEA funded. At the school gates I do not meet many other LEA funded Mums because the kids are often taxi'd to the school by the LEA. The majority of Mums I do meet are self funded or have means to do so and have large houses, posh SUVs etc. (My car is small, battered and ancient). This makes me feel quite inadequate especially as we live in an ordinary house. The Mums are lovely, friendly, welcoming, but I do not feel I have much in common with them (perhaps all in my mind?). We have great meals out and coffee and chat meet ups but that is as far as it goes. I feel this may be the same for many of them (the majority of Mums do not even go to these events). We have done the odd meet up two to three together but I have not made close friends with any of them so far and we have been at the school for years. The things is all of us are so busy with our SN kids and many of us live far from one another. This is OK - I have friends in my local church and the previous place we used to live. But I was wondering if this is normally the case for Mums with kids at independent schools? Surely if we had anything in common we would be drawn closer together?