Would this make you suspicious

[alwaysonedramalama]

Hi everyone I'm just looking for different views . Am I being paranoid or would it start people's mind going in to over drive . Me and my partner , well now mostly my partner don't like the use of phones in bed as soon as we go up the phones are on the floor charging . The other night I left mine on the bed side table and he moved it to where his phone was . He's that bad 😂. For around 8 years he was always in bed on his phone until I realised he was on a what's app group full of his Pervy work mates sending each other porn . I made clear from the start of our relationship this is one thing I wouldn't tolerate . He agreed but obviously lied . So I give him another chance and again he kept doing it so I actually ended it . He came back and promised that was it and I believed him and still do but tonight has been really odd he came to bed with his phone in his short pocket . It's always in his hand and he puts in on charge he dives straight in to her takes it out quick so I don't notice and puts it under his pillow , he never sleeps in his back always on his side where I cuddle in and we go to sleep but he was adamant to stay on his back tonight . Obviously to lay flat on his phone 😅 just wondering what the hells going on really x

You're in your 40s? You sound like a young woman of about 20 odd. I don't understand the control issues and then the passive aggressive smiley emojis.

How on earth do you know what level his battery is at? Why would anyone know this apart from the owner of the phone? Do both of you a favour and end this relationship

@ChipstickCharlie

You're in your 40s? You sound like a young woman of about 20 odd. I don't understand the control issues and then the passive aggressive smiley emojis.

How on earth do you know what level his battery is at? Why would anyone know this apart from the owner of the phone? Do both of you a favour and end this relationship

She did explain that, a couple of times I think. He said his phone was dead. When you plug a phone in to charge and it's off, it tells you what the battery percentage is. When she saw it after he plugged it in, it said 60%, which means it wasn't dead, he had just turned it off.

I agree that OP shouldn't stay in this relationship, it sounds exhausting and bad for both of them. But that particular point about the phone wasn't her snooping.

But you are tolerating it. You think you can change this behaviour by having it out with him and giving him ultimatums? When you are no longer 'tolerating' it you are no longer speaking about it. It is over - that's no longer tolerating it.

Exactly. OP you are putting all of the responsibility on your partner to respect your boundaries....but you are not sticking to your own boundaries and walking away like you should if it's genuinely something that you won't tolerate.

Hello OP. Some things sound difficult right now and I hope you can work them out. Wishing you all the best wishes and support in the world - life can be tough, but you can be tougher.