Am I too late to find love and have children at aged 28

[RachE6]

I'm unexpectedly single. Without going into the particulars, We were trying for a baby but I became unhappy with other things and I left.

Now I'm worried about the future, I know my biological clock is ticking. I wanted a baby in my twenties, I was certain I wouldn't bother in my thirties. Now I will have to meet someone new which I don't know how long will take, I'm heart broken so I need to get over this relationship first. I'm scared to start again.

Gosh! What on earth! You have plenty of time. I was divorced at 28 with a 5 year old and starting all over again. Met my now dh at 32 and had my son 2 years later. Been together nearly 12 years now.

No you are not you!! Still got loads of time to find you other half.

Met him at 27, married at 31, DC at 33 and 38. There's time yet

omg you have so much time don't worry at all :) the right person is out there waiting for you, don't settle for less x

You are still a youngster! My cousin met her husband when she was 38, married at 40, first child at 42, second child at 44!

Wtf? No! I've loads of girlfriends who are single and child-free in their early 30s still dating and waiting to find "the one".

All of my NCT group were 34+! I was a total anomaly at 29.

You have loads of time!!

I was in exactly the same boat as you a couple of years ago. I split with my ex at 30. I spent a year sorting myself out and met my current DP shortly after. We've been together a couple of years now. I'm soo happy. We are planning for our next steps and hopefully a family. Not too late!

Thankyou everyone, People IRL have said it's not too late for me but I thought I would get total, brutal honesty from an anonymous thread.

Thankyou @GilbertMarkham , it was one of the hardest things I've done, leaving my relationship where I saw him as the Father to my future children.

I'm trying to look forward though and it helps to hear other people's stories.

Your biological clock really is not ticking.

The ‘fertility falls off a cliff at 35’ stuff has been shown to be out of date inaccurate nonsense.

Look after yourself, don’t even think about this while you recover from this break up.

And then don’t make bad choices in haste.

The right time to have children is when you are happy, stable, and know that your partner is 100% solid. That cannot be rushed.

No way!

Aww lol of course not.

I wanted a baby in my twenties, I was certain I wouldn't bother in my thirties.

We all had ideas about different ages/events. 'When I'm 21 I'll be like X or Y' or whatever, 'if X happens I'll do Y.'

Now hopefully you can see you were wrong. 30 is no age, I think that's about the average age someone has a child now.

No! I left ex at 32 and met now dh at 33 had a baby just before I was 34

Met dp at 34, 2 babies at 36 and 39!!

No way is it too late

You must be joking. These posts are ridiculous.

No, you are not too late.
Act with purpose and don’t be embarrassed about what you want. Use online dating sites and be upfront that you are family minded. Don’t let unsuitable men waste your time.

Gordon Bennett, at 28 you are a spring chicken. Sooner or later you'll meet someone who is just right. Then you'll look back at this thread and laugh.

I am also 28 and don't think you're silly at all. It is natural to wonder when lots of people are snacking up and getting married.

I went through a year or so of feeling terrified that I might not meet anyone. But I am now becoming more contented with the prospect that I might not (I might well meet someone, but I am just open to the fact it is not guaranteed).

I have now been single for a year and am growing more confident in my own company and knowing what I will/won't stand for.

@interiorcrocodile

So glad I'm not alone and this feeling is perfectly normal!

@maria53

That is really comforting to know, I'm learning a lot about relationships, doing my research about boundaries etc. So much I didn't know before! I feel at my age I know exactly what I want now. I must admit too, I enjoy my me time now, doing what I want, when I want. I think that's the best way to be, to not expect anything to happen, if it does then great.

I was in the EXACT same position at the exact same age. Trying half heartedly with a reluctant partner, intensely ready for a baby, split up cos he didn’t want one.

Moved, downloaded tinder, met up with a guy two weeks later (genuinely only intended to meet people for a fun time and to explore my new city and make friends), hit it off and bought a house, married and had a baby at 31.

Definitely doable, but you should date with intent, date for a husband if you are gonna become exclusive with anyone, when you’re ready. I refused to start something with anyone else unless I was confident there was a decent chance of it going somewhere (after a lifetime of falling into relationships and getting stuck with fun for now but ultimately not worthy or suitable for commitment guys).

How depressing that women still think like this

Oh give over

I had a nasty break up just before I was 28 OP. Thought I would grow old alone and never be hurt again. Actually I think 28 is a particularly shit age to break up.

Had an OK summer. Met a really nice chap that November - he's snoring next to me now. I'm almost 60.

No I got married at 30 son born at 32 - the chap I was with in my 20s would have been rubbish in all ways - don't worry @RachE6 You are very far from being too late

Yep, no one over 28 has a rship or baby, completely unheard of. RIP to your love life and biological clock... Don't be silly.

I have a 5 year old and a 3 year old. When I was younger i used to think my cut off limit for having a baby was 30. Now im 28 i reckon I've got till about 36 to have at least one more

My sister is 30 and she hasn't got any. Neither have most of her friends her age. Shes going to start trying in the next few years