Would this upset you? Should I remove myself from my group of friends?

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So basically I've been isolating since march, obviously haven't seen my group of friends at all in that time. My best friend and I message sometimes but that's about it, no phone calls or anything. I've always felt like most of them only hang out with me because I'm best friends with the one friend that they are friends with... I hope that makes sense? So they all knew my best friend before I did, then I came along and thought I fitted into the group. I've always been invited to parties and pub trips etc but again, always felt like I was asked because they felt obligated to because my best friend was going.

Now I've found out that a large chunk of the group have been having fun group video chats together with drinks etc (including my best friend) and I haven't once been asked to join or anything. I've not had anyone talk to me in these 3 months of lock down either. Is it stupid to feel kind of upset by this? I feel like I have no friends anymore and that I should just remove myself because it seems clear that I'm not really wanted.

@Vodkacranberryplease my best friend and her husband who were in these video calls don't drink alcohol at all and haven't for years so I don't think the fact that I don't drink atm is relevant. The gig is also for next year when my baby will be close to a year old and can easily be left with my husband.

Oh, that sounds tough. I don’t have a group of friends either so I get the sadness. But if they were a group before maybe they haven’t realised that you feel part of it / wanted to be part of it, not Meant unkindly but that they’ve just carried on with their ‘group’ and just haven’t included you because they have reverted back to ‘the original group’ as they see it. It sounds like they have been friendly but I have found it helps to realise that people aren’t obliged to become your friend, and although it hurts it isn’t necessarily done with any malice or ill feeling.

Oh that's a shame OP I had kind of hoped it would be something that at least kind of had an explanation of sorts. People are funny, you have to ignore this kind of thing and move on/away to new friends I think. You won't be the only one post lockdown.