This is completely ridiculous, isnt it?
My STBxH and i separated nearly 5 years ago. He moved out, DD and i stayed here. I paid the mortgage, he paid the council tax, utilities, broadband, etc. Never asked for maintenance, because it would have come to about the same amount as he was spending on the bills, so seemed a bit pointless (hollow laugh). He saw DD sometimes, every other week to start with but then less and less, as she got older wnd had her own life, and so did he. He's seen her a handful of times since last November.
We are finally trying to come to a financial arrangement, and get divorced. The only asset is the house, with about 250k of equity. He is a contractor in IT, and earns well (80-100k on average for the last 10 years). I am a civil servant and earn roughly a quarrter of that.
I originally suggested that we split the equity 60:40 in my favour, as i had to house DD and have lower earning power. He went absolutely ballistic, saying i was "disgusting" for suggesting this, and that only 50:50 was fair.
He now says he will consider 60:40, but only if we pay off 30k of debt first that he has apparently accumulated in the last 5 years paying "my" household bills after separation. This is totally unreasonable, isnt it? He would get laughed out of court, wouldn't he?
Please don't have a go if i'm wrong, im really stressed out about this.