Staying friends?

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Had a brief 3 week romance with a guy, was fun and enjoyed it but things have def fizzled now. We have been messaging since for a couple week but it's quite polite and things have lost momentum, no one is driving plans forward either. We had discussed maybe being friends when we last met if things didnt work out (DTD on last date and brought up some emotional baggage on both sides...) - I was thinking of sending a final message sayiing that I had been thinking and had really had fun, but seemed like the spark had gone on both sides - would genuinely be open to being friends though if not too weird for him? But that I understood and if it was, let's just leave things here.

I did think we had a connection and would be happy to be friends. Seems like one of those things that has sort of run its course and everyone is just being polite but not really calling it out.

Terrible idea?

bump

I think if you genuinely do not see a future with him then sending a message or calling him to end it is fair. If you truly believe he could be a good friend to you, then yes, open yourself to that too. No harm there.

His actions will speak louder than words in that if he agrees to be friends but does not act like one, you can phase him out.

All the best

I think the whole staying friends thing is only sensible when you actually have a deep and lasting relationship. I'm friends with several exes (some of whom I was friends with before we dated), but they were people I've known for years. For someone I hung out with for 3 weeks, no, I think I'd just let that go. I think it sounds a bit insincere, like you are trying to get rid of him, but doing it gently.

I think that’s a good idea and a way to avoid any awkwardness if your paths cross again. I’ve found that when things fizzle out but it’s not really named then it’s hard to know how to act if you see each other again but when it’s made clear then you’re open to being friends or just being friendly if you bump into him again

Too much emotional baggage with long term exes to be friends, but I'm friends with most of my short term ones.

I'm best friends with my most serious LTR ex.

My mum's met several good friends over the years through 'Guardian Soulmates' and OLD.

It would depend whether you enjoy each other's company/like each other and stuff.

I don't see why not if he is a good person and you get on well.
He's probably still into you if you're doing the dumping so be kind no sleeping with him if he has feelings for you.
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