I think my relationship is over

[PawsAndReflection]

I've been with DP for 2.5 years and he's wonderful in practically every single way, but in the last 18 months has just stopped complimenting me when previously he was really really vocal. I've spoken to him about it and he said very little, but that he'd try harder.

I guess the reason I'm uncomfortable is that I don't feel I have to try and tell him or show him that I think I'm attracted to him- he's gorgeous! And I don't think that I'm not.

It seems like such a small thing as he's better in every other aspect than all my ex's and all my friends partners, but this is really important to me. After our 10th conversation about it I just decided to end it, while it's tolerable now I want to be with someone who finds me desirable whatever my age and if he can't do it at 29 then how can I expect it to be any different for the next 40 years.

There's a big part of me that thinks I should just make peace with it but I can't. Am I being insane here? I should clarify he never says anything denigrating.

She said he's gorgeous, why would you say she doesn't fancy him anymore?

Im a little confused by this post. Do you think he is unattracted to you, or just doesn't routinely verbalise his attraction anymore? Is he tactile? If you're otherwise happy, and it's just that he doesn't tend to verbalise it anymore, then I do also think that's just quite shallow and needy of you. Maybe he cares for you for more than the way you look, that your appearance has become secondary?

If you dressed up for a special night out though, bought a new dress and did your hair etc, and he still didn't even say 'you look nice' or express some sexual attraction to you, then you can probably assume he doesn't find you attractive anymore, or at least appreciate you physically?

I think the fact the sex is drying up AND he's dropped his compliments would hit anyone hard. You want to feel wanted, and it sounds like you make it clear to him that you want him and he's not reciprocating to the level you need. It also sounds like you have voiced this numerous times and yet he still won't listen and change - and he clearly knows how to compliment as he used to do it. I think he's got stuck in a bit of a funk maybe, and as some people do he has become complacent.
I would personally have to sit down and discuss the sex life. Ask him what turns him on. Buy a sexy outfit and spend a whole evening having fun. I think if you can try and get that spark back a bit then things will be better for you both. If not at least you can say you tried.

Yes, you’re insane.

Sounds like you've picked up on something going on - do you feel like he's less into you?
I agree it's odd if he's suddenly stopped.
I think if it's a symptom of something else then yanbu.

I mean this as kindly as possible OP, but I think this is a ‘you’ issue.