I ended a long term relationship a few months ago. I am still pretty heartbroken about it, I thought we were for keeps and it is really hard to deal with the loss of him, and the future I thought we had together.
I don't think I'm ready to properly date yet. But realistically proper dates are still a while off anyway I think while lockdown restrictions continue, and I'm thinking maybe I should just set up a profile and try and get used to at least conversing with someone else?
Although I met my Ex on a dating site, I had some truly awful experiences before metaphorically stumbling across his profile, encountering gaslighters, racists, sexists, misogynists. I was called all kinds of names and I suffered a (thankfully relatively minor) sexual assault. Pretty terrible all round. However I am nearly a decade older and wiser now, and highly intolerant of other people's bullshit so I hope my experience would be better now.
I know there's no way to avoid awful messages entirely, but the thought of getting into dialogue with the ones who 'and you?' the whole time because they can't think of their own questions, or end every sentence with hun. Or have no conversation. Or ask stuff like 'what are you looking for?' which I read as code for they're after a ONS, or sexting or whatever. All of this just makes me heave.
Maybe it's too soon? What do you think? Should I leave it until I feel more ready? My thinking was that if once I've done it, it all feels too soon I will just delete immediately and leave it another few months.