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First date.. catfish !

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Lucy8901 · 24/06/2020 00:45

So yesterday I was catfished for the first time in my life not sure how I feel about this wether to laugh or cry lol (im 30).. I had been taking to a guy from online for just over a week . I don’t usually meet this quick but I felt really good Vibes from him and thought why not..

We arranged a park date.. well I thought it was a park ! Turns out it was basically some kind of woods/ field with a path way and a few benches.

Anyways the guy turned up first of all he was late and I mean over an hour late.. why I didn’t cancel it then I have no idea but I thought he seemed really nice so I’d give it a try.. he was several stone over weight from the pics I’d seen.. he looked absoloutley nothing like his pics whatsoever I was actually shocked !! . they are clearly all old pictures..

It was all so creepy he insisted on going to this ‘park’ which was in the middle of fukin nowhere ! Even though I suggested other parks he said this one was really nice.. there wasn’t anything remotely nice about it. God don’t even know why I’m posting tbh just wanted to get off my chest as I’m bloody shocked.

He also looked like a complete tramp and I mean he had made zero effort and looked like he’d just rolled out of bed.

God it was bloody awful and I woke up this morning concerned that I’d actually gone to this ‘park’ with him in the middle of nowhere and how dangerous that is. When we parked up he said the park was a 10 min walk away and I was expecting a big park with lots of ppl etc..

I stayed for all of about an hour and swiftly left
I’m just shocked how someone can be so misleading !

Has this happaned to anyone ? He won’t stop messaging me now either.

OP posts:
cakeandchampagne · 25/06/2020 03:22

@ChristmasFluff

The gift of fear by Gavin de Becker is a book you need to read, OP. You are over-riding your instincts repeatedly, out of politeness, and this is something that leaves you VERY vulnerable.
This is a great book!
3cats · 25/06/2020 03:43

See it as a lesson learned. It was a bad experience and you got lucky, but you will be more careful in the future.

PinkMonkeyBird · 25/06/2020 09:54

You weren't catfished (that means something entirely different), basically he didn't match up to his OLD persona.

I'm glad you've learned from this and will put safety first next time rather than meeting in a secluded area.

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