hi everyone, Im going to try make it short otherwise itd be really long winded, even thoughts its very long.
My baby is 18 weeks, my dads mum and dad have yet to meet her and lockdown has prolonged that which im greatful for. Its their first great granchild. I feel like they dont deserve to be in her life and its not just because of the things theyve done its also the fact i dont want them to do it to my baby.
Im just going make a list of just a FEW things they have done
-It was christmas day, me and my sister were about 14. We usually go theres every year, they didnt even ring and left us hanging. My mum rang asking what was happening, turned out they were down with their other grandchildren and they never even bothered to tell us. Being 14 i was confused and hurt.
-Theyve refused to give us our birthday presents because they say me and my sister never visit them, yet we were young and they never invited us. We couldnt just turn up because they were never in the area because they was always with their new grandchildren, itd be like walking down to have a 40% chance of seeing them. My mum couldve rang but things were bad between them (that shouldn't be a reason for me and my sister to become invisible)
-My Great grandad on my dads side who i really loved died when i was 17, i hadnt seen him since i was about 10 because they stopped takeing us. Before that theyd take us until their new grandchildren arrived, they rook them to visit him when he was dying but never took us.. even when my grandad asked about us. My family dont drive apart from my nan and grandad, on my mums side but they arent up to date with gps's and the great granddad lived far in the countryside so it required a car. My dad hasnt seen him either, when me and sister visited he would to.
- They invited my dad to his funeral but me and my sister werent, the other grandchildren were who btw were 3 and 6 at the time. My dad is mentally unwell so is easily manipulated, he came back from the funeral with some flowers and a watch his dad bought his grandad 2 months before he died, it cost £20. My dad thought it was something special to his grandad, he keeps it very safe to this day. The price wasnt the point, it was the fact he never received anything of value that held memories from his grandad. His mum and dad shared everything with my dads sister and their grandchildren, we all got nothing. I was really hurt, they were too young to fully understand and connect.. me and my sister were 17, they knew we wanted to see him too.
-My dad became ill when i we were just a baby, they threw him out on the streets and as they were my dads next of kin they stopped my mum from seeing my dad. My dad got taken in to a hospital and they never visited him but my mum had no visitation rights so my dad was confused and ill with no one by his side. eventually after my mum threatning court they allowed my mum to see him. They just never liked my mum, they believed she took my dad away from them???
-My great grandmother died when we was a baby, her dying wish was gor my dads dad to always be there for us. He broke that.
-When they cared they took our height by usieng a pan to measure it on the wall. It turned in to a tall chart, they moment their other grandchildren were born and were shut out.. they painted over it and started to it with them.
I could go on and on, point is they arent very nice and they abandoned me my sister and dad, my dad cant see that though. Over the years my dads dad goes over to see my dad, his mum though hasnt see him in ages. When hes there he talks to my mum about his other grandchildren and has never ONCE asked about me and my sister. I last saw my dads dad when i was 32 weeks pregnant, he said oh hi and made 0 eye contact.. serioisly, he didnt even look at me when he said it. I never even got an are you okay through out my whole pregnancy and i was in and out of hospital. Before that i hadnt seen him since i was 18 which was for a couple mins, im now 21. My dads mum i havnt seen since i was 16, no one has ever stopped them from seeing us. My mum always encouraged it and got in arguments with them because they didnt want to know us. We went from being important to them to invisible when their new grandchildren came, we lost the cutness as we grew so they stopped careing.
After i gave birth they sent me a message asking if i was okay, mentioning how itll be nice to come down and visit. A couple weeks later it was my birthday and they posted a picture of me and my sister on Facebook of when we were still cute to them, that was the most care theyve showed for nearly a decade. They want to see my little girl, theyll probably abandon the grandchildren they abandobed us for, for their new one.
I dont think they deserve to know my little girl, my mum believes in chances but they had many to know us. Although my mum says its down to me, deep down she wants them to meet my little one she thinks im better than them.
they never wanted to know me but now im off use they want to.. I have lots of family who love and care for me and my baby, just seems like cuddles with my little one with pointless people that i couldve had.
Whats your thoughts?