Why did he stop speaking all of a sudden?

[Rach889]

Thanks to Tinder, my ex from 4 years ago got back in touch yesterday and we chatted all of last night until 3 in the morning. He didn't want a relationship last time as he was young and immature so we broke things off because I caught feelings. Anyway last night he was telling me that he wants to take things seriously this time and was being really sweet. We agreed to meet for a socially distanced date on Tuesday and I went to bed feeling excited about the prospect of seeing him again. We messaged constantly for about 5 hours and caught up on so much!
He then messaged me today early afternoon and asked how my day was going. I gave a pretty normal reply and then asked how his was going, but since then he hasn't replied! He normally replies straight away and I can't think of any reason for why he would be too busy tonight as he works during the day.
I'm completely confused as to why he's now decided to ghost me after giving me all of those promises yesterday. I sent him another message around half an hour ago asking if he'd got my other message, and still no reply.
Could anyone offer any insight into what's going on?

Did he ever get in touch with you OP?

@Rach889 - it's Fathers Day - could he have been busy seeing his Dad or his kids?

I think you were filling a gap in time for him, he was bored, you looked like an option, and you easily obliged. He is keeping lots of options open, and you are one among many. If he can pick you up and drop you down at his whim, then what would that do to your self esteem in the long term?

Bin him off now before you get more hurt.

He didn't want a relationship last time as he was young and immature so we broke things off because I caught feelings

He is now an immature player and has played on you having feelings for him and him needing attention.

I don't get the messaging constantly for five hours, could you not talk on the telephone and what do you mean by 'caught' feelings - developed feelings?

Maybe he had work to do or went to sleep which is why he stopped excessive messaging and he'll catch up with you later. Or else he is just messing about which is grossly unfair on you.

You don't need this man.

Now that he’s “sober” (or reread the texts after sleeping on it/looked over them with fresh eyes) he isn’t into you

I would sag that he was drunk messaging you, he now wishes it had never happened. He has someone else

He is still young and immature.

No emotionally mature person would make promises of a serious relationship to an ex from 4 years ago on the basis of a bunch of text messages.

Similarly, no emotionally mature person would invest any trust in such easily-made promises.

Don't send him any more messages. If he wants to contact you he will.
Sounds to me like he was just filling time on a Saturday night and was possibly drinking at the time.
Things like this shouldn't be hard work and if you're overthinking it then it's not going anywhere.

do not message him again :)