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Meeting up with EX

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Minimalist3 · 21/06/2020 14:02

Split with ex six weeks ago because things were getting toxic with arguing. We're still in contact via text. He wants to meet today for a social distance walk, part of me wants to go, see how I feel around him but part of me feels nervous/uneasy where we've had so much time apart. Help!

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Iamawareofthat · 21/06/2020 14:05

Only you whether it is right or not. Been in this situation before so I understand how yo feel would probably depend how the split turned out and what the next move is.

Dery · 21/06/2020 14:10

If you feel any nerves/uneasiness at all at the prospect of seeing him then I would keep away. You don’t mention whether or not you have shared children and need to retain contact for that reason. If not and you are anxious around him - which seems to be the case - then it sounds like you should keep away. In a healthy relationship, one partner is not afraid of the other. It’s a bad sign.

Minimalist3 · 21/06/2020 14:23

The break up was amicable. I'm not nervous of him but I'm just unsure about the whole situation!
If I go, do we discuss the breakup? Or just spend time together? How long should I go for? Gosh am I over thinking this!

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NotaCoolMum · 21/06/2020 14:27

If you have no interest in getting back together then I’d leave it. Otherwise it could open up a wound. X

davidandgoliath · 21/06/2020 14:33

If you're not actually nervous of him I'd just go for an hour and start with just general chit chat unless you want to discuss the break up? If he's asked you perhaps that's what he wants to talk about? He's asked you so I would just go with the flow as long as you're comfortable

bumbleb33s · 21/06/2020 14:35

I would ask him why he wants to meet so you know and can plan in your head what to discuss/bring up. He may just want a fix of you or to talk about getting back together, if you don’t know you will end up just chatting in general, those are my thoughts :)

VettiyaIruken · 21/06/2020 14:43

What's the point?

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